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Surely it gets easier once they can understand the concept of crime and punishment? [hopeful emoticon]

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PengTheMerciless · 17/04/2008 19:24

So, I'm quite prepared for the parents of older children to roll around on the floor clutching their aching sides in mirth, but the optimist in me says it MUST get easier.

Dd 1 year 11 months old. This afternoon she was an absolute brat. She refused - absolutely refused - to share her toys with the same aged little girl who came around with my friend. She took every opportunity to push this little girl over. She threw things at their baby. With no warning or provocation, she hit my friend on the head .

I know that at this age many people use counting to 5 or naughty step or time out or sticker charts etc, but I genuinely don't believe that she is old enough yet to understand complicated discipline. She doesn't understand saying sorry because she doesn't feel sorry. She quite enjoys the attention she gets when she pushes another child over, even though I keep it as basic and swift as I can without wanting to ignore it. I do tell her what is and isn't acceptable, and I would confiscate a toy used as a weapon for example, but I don't do punishment.

Surely once she's old enough to understand discipline it will be easier?

Step 1: Hit mummy's friend on the head
Step 2: Get hauled out of the room, told in no uncertain terms that hitting is unkind, insert suitable and appropriate punishment, return to room to apologise to mummy's friend.
Step 3: Consider not doing it again.

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bellavita · 17/04/2008 19:26

They get older, crimes just get bigger, still don't understand

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Pitchounette · 17/04/2008 19:38

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PengTheMerciless · 17/04/2008 19:44

Erm, yes, thanks for that Pitch! That's sort of what I was saying. More or less the entire point of my post. And she's 23 months old, not 11 months old. But hey, no one else is answering this thread, I'll take what I can get!

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PengTheMerciless · 17/04/2008 19:45

Bellavite - la la la - can't hear you. It will get easier.

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Pitchounette · 17/04/2008 20:53

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mumeeee · 17/04/2008 21:14

They still don't understand explenations when they get older. At 23 months distraction is a good tool.

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bellavita · 17/04/2008 21:54

Sorry Peng, I could not resist putting that and I know now you must feel.

I remember my very good friend who has DS1 19, DS2 16 and DD13 saying the same thing to me when my DS1 was a toddler.

She will learn but in time, like mumeeee says distraction is a good tool.

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Pitchounette · 18/04/2008 08:55

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