I make plans to do things with my children (age 6 and 8) and never dream of asking them first whether they want to go or not. Quite often they have no concept of what the outing entails so it seems pointless in asking them. I'd rather take them, try it out and 9 times out of 10 we have a blast. However, a friend of mine will never make a decision about an outing with her son (age 8) unless she has deferred to him first. I invited them rock climbing last week, she asked him and he said no so they didnt come despite him having no idea of what rock climbing is. A second invitation to go cycling was also declined despite my friend being desperate to come but as she had asked him and he refused she had no option but to say no. I often do things with mine that, had I asked them they would have refused but end up thoroughly enjoying. My point is, why defer to a child who inevitably is going to say no, why not just tell them what you are doing and do it. I've run it past a few other friends of mine with children the same age, they also never ask their children's permission first, they, as the adult, make the decision themselves. I find it infuriating.
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Do you ask or tell your children when and where you are going?
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Trifle · 17/04/2008 17:27
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17/04/2008 17:40
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