Would you bother speaking to your friend about this?
My friend shouted at my DD 2 weeks ago and it has been really bothering me ever since. I thought I was overreacting and would forget about it but I can't stop thinking about it
At my friend?s house for dinner DD, 4 nearly 5, knocked over her cup of juice, my friend immediately shouted at her to pick the cup up IMMEDIATELY YOU SHOULD PICK UP A CUP IMMEDIATELY IF YOU KNOCK IT OVER etc in a nasty tone of voice. As far as I saw it DD had only that instant knocked over the cup and hadn?t had a chance to pick it up before she was shouted at. That was it, it was all over and friend got a cloth to wipe up the mess and everyone at the table acted like nothing had been said, including me much to my later regret. I didn?t immediately feel angry ? I am so used to her being snappy with her own family that I almost forgot this was my family ?later on I started getting mad. There have been a couple of occasions previously when she has snapped at my DD, which I have mentally made a note of but haven?t bothered me so much. Although I do sometimes shout (unreasonably at times) at DD I would never shout over accidents like this. DD is an average 4 year old, no excessive bad behaviour. DD went quiet for a while but she never mentioned it later, didn't appear particularly upset. Not really sure what bothers me ? whether I am put out that she shouted at her for such a petty incident or that she shouldn?t be castigating my DD. It wasn't as if I had a chance to say or do something before DD was shouted at.
This friend has been a really good friend to us in the past thru hard times - in many ways she?s like family to us, we are good friends and I wouldn?t want to fall out. However she?s quite short tempered and dismissive with her family (including her DH) and I don't want her going down this path with DD.
Also DH and I are in process of writing our wills and were about to name her as the guardian , ok it is unlikely touch wood that she will fulfil the role of guardian but it has put me in 2 minds about it
What do you think - Am I being too precious about this? Would you just let it pass or would you say something so it doesn't happen again.
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momtoone · 14/04/2008 11:36
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