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Advice needed. Am being ignored by 10yo and 7yo. what to do?

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ellajellybelly · 03/04/2008 18:57

Hello - advice needed please.
I have two girls - 10 and 7. they often play a game (which was originally rather a nice game) where the 10 year old pretends to be our dog. This game has now changed from being nice, into one that involves a very high-pitched voice and lots of screaming and lots of tits, bums and wee wee talk - I can cope with the tits and bums, but the voice instantly makes me (and other half) tense and irritable.

I ask her to change the voice / tell her to stop - but it doesn't happen and in the end i feel like i'm bleating away in the background and no-one's listening.

Writing all this down makes it seem rather silly and that i'm over-reacting - but it (the game) drives me absolutely mad - and I really detest being ignored.

I've tried threatening removal of DS, (and have done it for a few days) but to be honest, she doesn't seem to mind this. I end up feeling that i'm coming out with a load of ineffectual threats.

I've just ended up getting cross with her now and sent her up for a bath and hairwash - but she just giggled when i was being cross.
If anyone's got any advice, do tell!
many thanks

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hecate · 03/04/2008 19:10

Is 10 not rather old for the whole tit/bum/fart/poo/bottom stuff? Maybe you could play it from that angle?

Ok, so she doesn't care about the ds. What DOES she care about? What matters to her? Use that.

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ellajellybelly · 03/04/2008 20:29

Thanks for replying. Yes she is too old for tits and bum talk - but there was an extra 7 year old here today and she was showing off for younger company.

I've just had big blow out with her and told her what i thought - basically that she needs to start thinking about others rather than just herself. She countered it with the fact that she's been ill for a couple of days and been stuck at home (quite true really - so one point to her there!) and she's apologised.

However, this evening has left me with the feeling that zero tolerance may be needed for a bit. Am feeling militant. Just don't see why i have to listen to stuff adinfinitum (sp?) that i don't want to! Grrrr!