Hi to everyone, this is my first post after having been a lurker for ages!
I will try to be as brief as poss but give you a picture of my worry in the hope that someone may be able to give me some advice/the benefit of their experience, etc. Well, we have 2 DS, the younger of which is a 'young' 12yo IYSWIM. He started yr7 in September, and I am concerned that it just isn't 'happening' for him.
He was hothoused through his SATS, achieving v. good level 5's across the board, however his teacher assessments were level 4's throughout. Consequently he was placed in the top stream at HS, and has already been moved down 1 class in January. I feel this will not be the last move if the downward trend in his levels revealed in his end of term report continues.
However, more worrying to me is his emotional/social development. He is quite immature for his age IMO, teachers and friends also have thought so over the last couple of years. When he left primary he didnt have any proper friends really, and moved up to HS with several boys who he knew but I wouldnt class as friends.
He hasnt made any new friends as such, never sees/speaks to anyone outside of school. He doesnt go on MSN, or ring anyone, etc, says he doesnt want to. TBH I get the impression he hasnt much in common with anyone - not into any particular games consoles/games except PSP - exclusively football games. In fact that is his one passion/hobby - football, more specifically our local team. He does go to all home games and several away games with his Dad, this is his only social life. He asked a boy if he would like to come round after school a few weeks ago - the reply was 'I probably wont be able to as my Mum doesn't know you well' - ???!! He said 'hi' to another boy he says he likes in a shop in town a couple of days ago - we were about 10-12 feet away at the time.The boy looked down & blanked him (I was there, and thought it quite rude actually!!) We have tried many activities/clubs over the last couple of years - he soon gets fed up & asks not to go any more. He is also quite chubby and does get a degree of 'flak' over this.
So a big thank you to anyone who has got this far, and would anyone be able to give me any suggestions as to what we can/should do? He seems quite happy at home but I do sometimes get the impression that he would like a friend sometimes. The school are well aware that we are concerned - his HOY said she thinks it is a confidence issue and would see what she could do to help - nothing forthcoming so far, that was said in December! Has anyone had a child who was like this at a similar age, and if so did they alter with or without your input, will he 'grow up' eventually? Do immature pre teens/teens mature sooner or later?
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mummyflood · 24/03/2008 19:03
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