my kids wrek the house >.<

[Sapphier]

Ok I'd love some advice please

I hve 2 boys, one is nearly 4 yrs old and the other is coming on for 2 yrs.
They wrek the house and i mean seriously. The youngest more so, he constanly throws things, this can be anything and everything! food,toys,clothes,plates He climbs up at the tv, the dining table, throws off anything thats in the way. I have one shelf in my living room with just a few nice things, if i am off doing something i can gaurante that a object has been moved to climb up and throw it on the floor If i let them go up stairs to play in the bed room, half the bedroom ends up thrown down the stairs. I have a computer desk in my living room and its hanging on its last wires, its totally wreked. (gettin a laptop and removing this)
I tell him off for doing these things and say no, i put him in his high chair (stairs is not an option, too young to stay still) so what i do??????

We are moving house soon andalready me and dh have decided we will have the living room locked at all times, bedroom and the bathroom. But surly this is just nonsence! Cant even sit on the sofa with a cuppa without either of them jumping on me. Damn sorry i just need to get it all out. They are driving me nuts

[BITCAT]

I think you probably need a set of rules, obviously the 2yr old is only copying what 4yr doing so you really need to get a hold of this!! Can you place them in the corner if misbehaving, 4yr old anyway then maybe put 2yr old in other corner in the high chair and ignore any screaming or crying, just for 2mins for the 2yr old and 4mins for the 4yr old and do this everytime they climb on stuff throw anything. If a toy is thrown i would take it off them and make it clear that it will not be returned till say an hr. You need to make it very clear that this behaviour is not acceptable and i would do this consistently for couple of weeks and see if there is a change but you do need continue otherwise it will carry on.

[Sapphier]

yeah i will try this, thankyou. I just feel as i am going up the walls.

I normally send ds1 to his room for chill out time, so would thisstill count do you think? will stick with the corners actually, thank you for your post BITCAT

[NAB3wishesfor2008]

My 6 year old has been put in his 2 year old brothers room and he has only been i nthere 3 nights and has pulled off some of the border and his name letters. 3 of rhe new doors have been drawn on and one floor and one wall in the bedrooms too. We hope to redecorate the whole house this year and I think on that basis we will do our room first. I only painted downstairs last month and it needs touching up again already.

I want a home, not a house but really

[BITCAT]

You could try some reward charts too, to reward any good behaviour and discourage the bad. Say when they get so many in a week you could treat them, a day out, trip to the park, feeding the ducks etc Also i just thought does your 4yr old have particular tv program he likes to watch, turning the tv off as a punishment may also help!! As parents we do expect a little mess and scribble on walls but they also do need to learn to respect you and there surroundings and i know exactly how you feel this is how my ds1 used to be and my house gets wrecked by my 4, when they are all running around!! I there are toys in the room it probably wouldn't work but whatever works for you, you just need to find something that would work for you, i'm sure it will get better as they get older..i hope it does very soon!!