what would you do if, your mil every time she visits, gives chocolates and sweets to your children?

[pregnantbabyelephant]

without asking and does it all the time?

[goingfor3christmaspuddings]

How often does she visit?

[pregnantbabyelephant]

either once a week or once a fortnight

[ggirlsbells]

mine does it-the kids love it.

I try not to eat it as well.

Doesn't visit more than monthly though.

[Maidamess]

I would say very nicely, you can have ONE now, and we'll put the rest away for later. Then eat, or dispose, or share as you wish.

Or describe a mythical filling one of your children needs to have.

[ILikeToMoveItMoveIt]

If she gives too much to the kids in one go. Ration it out over the next few days?

I really wouldn't make an issue of it unless it was really excessive. And if it is, mention it in a jokey type way eg blimey, thay still have stuff left from your last visit, maybe you don't need to bring so much!

Good luck!

[goingfor3christmaspuddings]

If it's just once a week don't fret about it. If she gives them alot put most of them away and enjoy them when the kids are in bed! It's really not worth creating a bad feeling aobut.

[pregnantbabyelephant]

i think she does it because she wants them to run over to her, its a bit sad really though isn't it?
like is that the only way to get there interest.
i dont really like her giving them junk tbh

[TotalChaos]

DH says "be thankful it's not toys". His MIL is rather erm overly generous.

seriously - just say thank you, and accept it as part of the perk of being a grandparent.

[juuule]

I wouldn't be too concerned. I'd be glad that mil was interested in her grandchildren. It's not that often anyway and if she does bring loads of sweets/chocolates then I'd do what Maidamess said and let them have one now and save the rest for later.

[SantaBeClausImWorthIt]

Sorry, but why should she ask you? She's bringing what she considers to be a gift for your children. I think that's lovely.

If you really don't like her giving them chocolates and sweets then just tell her - and ask her not to - suggest a magazine or a book or something you would prefer.

But I think the best course of action is to let her do it, but ration what the children eat there and then.

[OverMyDeadStuffedTurkey]

Have you asked her not to? I'd just have a quiet word, say how nice it is of her to spoil your DCs, but maybe can she keep it as an occasional treat so they don't come to expect it from her?

I'd be pissed off if someone kept doing this after I'd asked them not to.

Could you suggerst alternatives? Chocolate covered raisins, dried fruit from health food shops etc. that don't have artificial stuff oin them?

Or just ration it, after all, isn't eating sweets all part of childhood?

[MerryAnnSinglemas]

once a week or fortnight seems ok to me - I thought you were going to say every day !

[seeker]

Say thank you?

Remind the children to say thank you?

Don't see the problem, tbh!

[CodRestYeMerryGentelmen]

say thank youa dn remind kdis to say thank you

,typicla mumsnet sugar hysteria>

[ivykaty44]

As one of the other post said, say to the children pick one sweet now and we will put the rest away. Then the following visit say "oh my goodness the sweets are stacking up we havn't got through the last sweets treat you brought, at this rate we will have a sticky mess in the sweety jar as there are so many"

[hercules1]

Say thankyou and get the kids to too. What lovely memories they will have of their grandmother.

[Elphaba]

I let them have a bit and put the rest away. My MIL goes right over the top with sweets and biscuits. A treat is fine but a full on sugar fest is ridiculous.

[JingleBelgoHoHoHo]

I agree with the posters who say 'say thank you' It's only once a week or fornight.

[FrannyandZooey]

mine is big ponce like me and brings basket of fruit

[FrannyandZooey]

oh no that is my mother sorry

my MIL brings vodka breath and usually a vast plastic thing needing a landfill's worth of batteries

[MrsGrinch]

lol at sugar hysteria.

Small amount - once a week is fine. Just be grateful you don't have my MIL. She's sent dh with the childrens' 'Christmas chocolate'....

3 large tins - Roses, Celebrations, Heroes
Large bag toffee popcorn
large bag marshmallows
large bag of Haribo (in little bags)
3 tins of biscuits
Some candy canes.

This is much reduced on last year after dh finally told her to stop buying them so much. She's done it since they were little and the amount has increased year-on-year. Now theyre teens they'd be much happier with a £10 mobile top up each.

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