Reassurance needed - leaving baby for first time....

[justme27]

Hiya,

I am going away for a weekend in January and will be away from dd who will be 5 months then for 4 days and 3 nights.

Feel really guilty - she will be with DH, my whole family and my dh's family so will be surrounded by people who love her, dote on her and she has been around since birth.

BUT i know it doesnt take away from me not being there.

She is a content baby, sleeps from 8.30pm to 7pm every night, and is generally quite happy.

Is it going to have an adverse affect on her? Was watching tha programme on 4 and am now paranoid that she will get seperation anxety or become insecure...

Hope I don't get slated now :-(

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

SHE WILL BE FINE

Go away, have a nice time, and come back rested and an even better mum that I am sure you already are.

We have just had a weekend without our 2. It was glorious, and they both had a riotous time with thier Granny, who spoilt them rotten.

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

It won;t have an adverse effect on her either, she will be loked at by peol;le she iknows and who love her. It's not akin to locking her in the coalshed for the weekend!

[justme27]

thanks...was wrried that i'd come back to a heap of criticism

how old are your two?

do u think she is too young? although i was thinking that shes still the age where shes fine as long as she get chaned, milk and bed!!

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

No not too young. mIne are older, 3 and 15 months.

I can uderstand where you are coming from thoiugh, I would have woriied with my first. I didn;t leve him overnight til he was 11 months old.

With DS2 though, I went on the lash when he was 3 weeks old

[Pheebe]

If he doesn't already perhaps DH could start to do bedtimes and feeds etc so she isn't dependent on you alone. We've always took it turns to do bedtime with DS1 and it proved a godsend when I ended up in hospital for 10 days!

[justme27]

dh is fantastic with her and already gives her feeds (i'm mix feeding)

we're going to start with bedtimes - like i said she is currently quite good and falls asleep hersef once you put her down at the right time so isnt reliant on me in that resect.

I guess my worry is I know straight away what she needs when she cries whereas it takes everyone else longer...but then they have to get used to her

DH keeps saying that she'll be fine and its just me!

Trust me I need a break from the families and everyone!

Thanks all!

xx

[yomellamoHelly]

Go. Have a great time. I assume whoever looks after her will follow her routine to the letter, so she'll have that as a comfort if she needs any more than being with people who love her. My dss are fine so long as their routines are stuck to.