making a rod for your own back ? what have you done to hear this classic quote

[robinredbreast]

picking up baby when she crys -rfyob[ rod for your own back]
bf on demand rfyob
letting baby sleep in our bed when she was very small and bf in the night rfyob

rod for your own back, such a horrible saying isnt it?wonder where it orginated from

[mishymoo]

Lying on DS's bed with him until he fell asleep.

Putting him in bed with us during early hours of morning when he had woken up.

[robinredbreast]

oh yeah i get that one too mishymoo having a snuggle in the morning seroius rfyob lol

[sophierosie]

Feeding dd to sleep

Carrying her in a sling whilst she slept

[stripeymama]

Oh yes pretty much everything I did with DD - according to exMIL.

Wierdly enough, ex (33) and his sister (29) are both selfish, spoilt, ignorant, and insensitive with commitment issues and drug problems - despite her obviously wonderful and totally non-rod making way of bringing them up.

[JolieGirl]

Oh god this is the worst thing anyone can say to a new mum. My own mother said this phrase to me linked to just about everything I did in the first 6 weeks with DS. I will never ever utter it to anyone ever, makes you so anxious

[stripeymama]

Main ones she disapproved of were bf (on demand !!), co-sleeping, refusal to buy (or let her buy) babywalker.

[bluenosesaint]

Everything i do ...apparantly

[mollymawk]

Going in to cuddle DS1 when he cried. Aged SIX WEEKS.
Actually from MIL to DH (and she is lovely really).

[theUrbanDryad]

bf-ing on demand, co-sleeping, babywearing

obviously, babies need to learn to stand on their own two feet (in a babywalker, natch )

[southeastastra]

hmm i think the saying is true

[robinredbreast]

totally agree joliegirl its such a horrible saying isnt it?
wonder where the saying comes from?

what other horrid saying are there?

another one i hate is spare the rod, spoil the child! although at least you dont hear that one v often

or children should be seen and not heard! phew thanks goodness you dont really hear that one either

[Lazarou]

DS1 was born 4 weeks early and two weeks after he ended up in hospital on a drip. He was drousy and had sickness, diarrhea, mottled skin. They did all sorts of horrible tests and I was holding him and rocking him to sleep when a nurse came in and asked me if I always held him while he went to sleep, then told me i was making a rod for my own back.

[southeastastra]

it would be nice if children were not heard but seen

[Lazarou]

was thinking the same thing sea, lol

[theUrbanDryad]

OMG Lazarou - hope you reported her, although i expect you had other things on your mind

[Lazarou]

Well, she was slightly older and a bit old school in her thinking, and the other nurses did tell me about her before they went off shift.

[Callisto]

My HV told me I was making a rfmob when I (foolishly) told her I was feeding on demand. I didn't go on to tell her that I picked dd up whenever she cried, carried her around with me, co-slept and fed to sleep too. I think she might have had a total breakdown. Thank the Lord I was surrounded by sensible family who were completely non-judgmental - though I know MIL didn't approve she kept it to herself.

[hickorydickory]

lazarou - and there was me thinking nurses were meant to keep personal opinions to themselves.

My mum and MIL keep saying I'll get RFYOB when I cuddle / hold ds (9 mo)for "too long" and by co sleeping if he's not having a good night.

[Tapster]

I just told everybody including HV that I was learning to "love my rods". DD now just turned one a very content little girl and I don't regret picking her up when she cried, feeding her to sleep for months, bfing on demand (still do that at one year old, a rod I particularly like), using a sling etc...

IMO its MILs that are so concerned about the rods - why, they don't have to live with them.

[theUrbanDryad]

i wish i really did have a rod for my back - it might sort out my knackered back from carrying ds in a shoulder sling!!

[vesela]

ditto tUD - I could do with better posture!

[wheresthehamster]

Has there anyone who has co-slept NEVER had that said to them . I heard it so often especially from one of my sils who used to preface it with a sigh and a shake of the head and say "Well, as I've said before...."

[wheresthehamster]

IS there anyone.. obviously

[iheartdusty]

cutting fruit into pieces - RFYOB
peeling fruit - RFYOB
agreeing to go and fetch something DD wants from upstairs because she is busy with a craft thing - RFYOB
always taking water when we go out - RFYOB (like, it would be better to end up buying some fizzy drink because there is nothing else?)

[SenoraPostrophe]

I made a rod for spine support purposes.