Am I over reacting about my son being driven by grandparents?

[Linz2]

.







































































































































My mum is 62 and generally in good health as far as she is aware. She had a giddy spell at my house the other week which she says that she does get every now and then, she didn't fall over or anything and it was over very quickly. I get giddy quite a bit but usually after I have been squatting down or something (not that she was squatting) and did not think anymore about it. My 67 yr old stepfather is very active and currently doing up their bungalow, he has suffered with high blood pressure for sometime now.(He has gone to the doctors today because he is experiencing numbness in one of his hands which I remember being looked into before my son was born which his doctor did think could
have been as a result of a mini stroke but after tests this was not diagnosed.
My partner and I do wittle and worry about other people looking after our son and are not happy about other people driving him anywhere and I do not want to over react and upset anybody but I was wondering whether I should suggest that they do not drive him anywhere because of her giddiness and his hand numbness? I'm always looking at other grandparents out with grandchildren and wonder if the parents are relaxed about it? By the way my 33 yr old partner has had high blood pressure which is controlled by tablets so my issue isn't particlarly about the actual high blood pressure.
Apologies for the waffle

[Sheherazadethegoat]

i think you are overreacting a wee bit. i doubt your parents would drive him anywhere if they felt unable to do so.

[OverMyDeadBody]

I think maybe you are over-reacting a little bit! My ds is often looked after by my parents and other fmaily members and it hadn't even crossed my mind to worry about this sort of thing, to to answer your second question yes I am relaxed about it.

I think you would really upset your parents if you told them you didn't think your DS would be safe being driven by them.

[Linz2]

I totally understand what you are saying but I am sure they feel well as they set off, but what if she has a giddy spell whilst driving or he has a stroke or something whilst he is driving. It's almost like I wish they had not told me about these things and then I would not have to worry.

[ellehcim]

I had a very similar issue with my in-laws. I have to shut my eyes when I'm in the car with them and they never seem to wear seat belts.

Lost the battle after a big row with DH (who can see no problem!). I now worry whenever DS1 is with them.

No helpful sugestions I'm afraid but I think you're being perfectly reasonable. IME elderly drivers often think they're safe drivers when they no longer are.

[Linz2]

Ellehcim, I suppose I can relax that I do think they are relatively safe drivers and probably am sure try to take even more care with him in the car and I do not have an issue over seatbelts, my problem is more about worrying about what ifs! I feel for you too.

[MuffinMclay]

I wouldn't let my parents or MIL drive ds anywhere.

My father has fallen asleep at the wheel, and has no sense of how dangerous he has become as a driver (he reversed into my car recently and didn't notice or feel a thing). I wouldn't go in a car with him, so I'm certianly not going to let ds.

My mother is reasonably safe (if slow) but won't drive round where we live because she doesn't know the roads.

My MIL drinks and drives (and has no interest in taking ds anywhere anyway).

TBH I've never refused to let my parents drive with ds, but I make sure that the situation never arises (by offering to drive everyone in my car, for example). I would refuse with MIL if she had been drinking, and to hell with her feelings.

[UniS]

do they WANT to drive him anywhere? If the only car seat is in your car you are in a controling position. If its one that doesn;t fit their car ( iso fix for ex) even stronger position.
I don't want MiL taking boy in her car but she has never offered or asked so its not been an issue. Boy has been in my dads car with dad driving also a few friends cars and childminders.