Help Guilty Hormonal Pregnant Woman

[Jobean]

Last night a had a proper rant at my husband, I just went off on one completely for about a good ten/fifteen minutes God knows what I was even saying!

The worst of it was that my DS aged 5 was eating his tea and I stopped when I saw him holding his hands over his ears my God do I feel guilty - why couldn't I just save it for later when he was alseep at least.

I took DS to watch some fireworks round our friends and I had a little chat with him in the car and the way there and apologised for shouting at Dad. He seems fine but I feel so awful that I subjected him to hearing me ranting on. I still feel bad today.

Is there anything I can do or say to make it better - will he be ok?

Like most couples DH and I have the odd row but do try and keep DS out of the way when we do.

[LilRedWG]

I'm sure your DS will be fine. The important thing is that you have apologised to him and that you make sure he knows that you love him and his Daddy.

[systemsaddict]

My parents never rowed in front of me and so I never learned that sometimes people get angry with each other, sometimes it's for no good reason just because we're human beings, and it's OK because everyone still loves each other at the end and it all gets sorted out. I'm bad at dealing with conflict in everyday life now, whereas friends whose families were more ... dynamic ... are much better at it! Obviously you don't want dcs to be living in a constant warzone but witnessing the occasional rant will do him no harm at all.

[Jobean]

Thanks for the reassurance - I think I am like systemsaddict - I never really witnessed confrontation in my house and so I really take it to heart when things like this inevitably happen.

When you lose your temper you feel so weak and i feel like I let myself and my family down.

It wasn't one of those rants that went on and on and DS was joking with us both in our bed this morning so he knows I seriously love them both and that its nothing deep rooted.

I knew mumsnet would make me feel bettr x

[kindersurprise]

I agree with Systmesaddict. My DH's parents never argued in front of the children so they are all pretty bad at dealing with confrontations. It took DH a good while to learn how to defend his decisions. He would just say what he wanted and that was it, no discussion allowed.

My parents were the opposite, always rowing over silly things. I remember being scared taht they would divorce.

We try to reach a compromise. The DD should see us having a difference of opinions, as long as it is not all the time.