My SIL is due in November, and the father is a brief boyfriend she had.
Although they are on ok terms, and he has an ok job, he is quite mean with money. She has bought cot, pram etc, and let him know how much it cost her so he could pay half, but heard nothing for ages. When she did, he didn't give her half, he gave less. (He can def afford it)
With regards to after the baby comes, he says he will pay her so much a week, but he wants the baby overnight one weekend a fortnight, and that week he'll give her less money. She'll be paying for childcare when she wants to go back to work aswell.
I told her i think she should do everything officially through CSA and let them sort it, incase he lets her down and there's nothing to show what (if anything) has been paid.
Also, he has no baby experience at all- when he met DS he was terrified, and DS was already walking etc- but he expects the baby to be handed over to him.
Does anyone have any experience of anything like this? I don't want her to get let down, or them to fall out big time, and i can't really offer any advice in this area.
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PregnantGrrrl · 02/10/2007 07:53
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