My DD had a scrap with a friend a few weeks ago which resulted in her being left with a 2 inch scratch mark on her chest. I was not pleased about this and told her not to play with this girl until she said sorry. I tried to find out what happened and DD said that she just lashed out at her when they were playing pretend fights
. She has two brothers. They said they didn't want to play any more and this is when it happened. I asked her to go up and ask this girl to come and speak to me. She wouldn't but burst into tears instead. The mother did not come to see me and I just let it go. I told my DD that she was not to play in my neighbour's house when this other girl was there. My next door neighbour has a 9 year old daughter who my DD has played with constantly. They were inseperable. My neighbour said that this girl's mother said her daughter also had a scrape on her wrist so I asked what happened and she said she accidentally stood on her hair. Her two brothers were there when it happened so I brought them over and asked them. They said their sister went mad when my DD accidentally stood on their sister's hair and she went for her and my DD hit back. After this I received a call from the mother to say how dare I question her children when she wasn't there and what age was I, was I a child for not letting her in my neighbour's when her daughter was there. She said she saw what happened and my DD hit out first. She is absolutely lying as my DD said she was in the kitchen cooking and then out talking to a neighbour. In fact when this little incident happened, one of the girl's brothers took my DD to the mother to let her see what her daughter had done! <br /> <br /> With a result of this v heated conversation in which I put the phone down and told her she had shown her true colours this mother has started to exclude my daughter by inviting my neighbour's daughter and my neighbour up to her house as she knows I don't allow my daughter there. She even had her children call for my DD and then after ten minutes leave her in the street while they went up to their house. <br /> <br /> I am v angry and am not speaking to my neighbour any more. One reason being that when they moved in just over a year ago they practically took over my daughter's life. She is quite a forward person, the type that walks into your home etc. She is separated from her husband and her 9 year old daughter can be v difficult, always needing entertained, always needing someone to play with. They were constantly over at our door the second they got out of the car, inviting my daugher for her tea, taking her places. We never seen her and it was quite a difficult time as we didn't know how to handle the situation. I am angry that my neighbour used her to entertain her own daugher and now is throwing her to the side now this other mum has got her claw's in. I know this sounds all petty but I really feel for my little girl because she doesn't understand why this is happening. This other mum is being v devious. She is taking my daughter's friend away from her as best she can. This never happened before I had the phone call. I am annoyed that my neighbour is not seeing what this other woman is doing and has made a fool out of us. Her daughter actually came over to my daughter the other night and said
***'s mum rang us at my granny's to invite us up to her house so I'm going up there but I can play with you tomorrow night if you want`. We are now not on speaking terms. My husband went nuts when this happened and said that now as far as he's concerned they don't exist. How dare they make a fool of my daughter.
Maybe this all sounds pretty petty but it's actually quite upsetting. I feel for my daughter and worry that this (bullying by this mother which is what it really is) will affect her in any way. She has been v quiet and is just playing on her computer. Please help me someone with this problem.
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My daughter is being excluded by 2 v nasty mums. Please help!!!!!!
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jogym · 10/09/2007 10:38
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