I was wondering if this has been discussed before.
After DS1 was born I had PND (I thought it was quite bad but I am not sure how it is "graded", if at all).
After his birth I suffered from panic attacks, feeling anxious, insomnia and just had this overwhelming sense of things not being right. The panic attacks stopped by the time he was about 8 weeks old and I started on anti-depressants when he was 16 weeks old which really helped with the other symptoms.
I feel so terrible that I did not bond with my son until he was about 2 years old. When he was tiny I am horribly ashamed to say that I let him cry more than I should have. I felt so completely like a fish out of water I just didn't know how to handle him. The upshot of it was that he became very attached to his dad which made me feel even worse.
When DS was 2yrs7months I fell pg with no 2. Somehow this really triggered my maternal instinct which had been non-existent until this point. I became conscious of how much DS1 meant to me and life became normal - I adored him without having to try.
I recently gave birth to DS2 - and have gone the opposite way. I am totally overjoyed to be a mum to a tiny baby and gorgeous 3yr old, I can honestly say I didn't even really have a day of baby blues - I worry that this will cause problems in the future.
Does anybody know if this rocky start for DS1 will have a long term effect on him. Have there been any studies into the long-term effects of PND on the family?
Sorry that this has been so long.
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Postnatal Depression: The effects on children
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dejags · 27/09/2004 11:36
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