I know PFBs get lots of attention and that 2nd (and subsequent) children just have to fit in but I do feel guilty about how much less time i spend with dd compared to ds. He is 2.1, a typically boisterous boy, so does need a lot of attention. She is now 9 months and has always been very contented to just watch us and/or amuse herself with her own toys. I know that if she wasn't happy she would soon let me know - babies aren't shy about letting you know when they aren't happy!
I just feel that he gets the majority of my attention whilst he is awake and with me. Then when he isn't around, eg nursery 2 mornings, naps, etc, I then want to get on and do all the things that are so much easier to do when he isn't under my feet and as a result she gets dumped in different rooms whilst I clean, hoover, iron and generally get all the household chores done. I am sure that as she needs me more to play with her I will find the time to do so (and hopefully her brother will be older and more able to play by himself or gently join in with her activity).
I guess I was just looking for re-assurance that this is 'normal' and wondering whether there are any words of wisdom out there.
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Feeling guilty about how little time I spend with 2nd child
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MuddlingThru · 02/08/2007 09:55
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