suggestions please for a parenting book that will help me and DH not scream blue murder at the kids every day and threaten to lock them in the shed

[Cappuccino]

I'm not kidding

we need help

has anyone read anything that will not make us piss ourselves laughing?

[moondog]

Ylou don't need to line other folks pockets.

You need to decide on a consisitent plan of action and stick to it.

That's all.

[Cappuccino]

well at present it is the former

they are driving us nuts

luckily we have just bought a shed as previously it was an empty threat

[toomuchtodo]

thats my/our problem, I'm not consistent

if I've had a crap sleep due to ds's I'm like a bear with a sore head the next day

[Cappuccino]

what about this book that cod is reading about listening and talking and all that

[edam]

Think Cod's book is 'How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk', or summat.

Personally I'd go for the shed option - you'd only have to do it once!

[kittylette]

yes, happy children through positive parenting,

here

only parenting book i havent put down part way through thinking 'bullshit'

[kittylette]

Synopsis
"Happy Children through Positive Parenting" is a parenting book with a difference. It does not tell parents how and when to potty train or when to introduce children to solid food. Instead, it argues what really matters is helping children to grow up feeling secure and good about themselves, enabling them to gain positive self-esteem. Knowing and liking yourself is so often the key to success in life - affecting personal relationships, general motivation and success in work. Using key words such as 'praise', 'play', 'time', 'touch' and 'talk', "Happy Children through Positive Parenting" speaks to new and experienced parents alike about what helps children to develop and what blocks progress. No matter how difficult parenting may have seemed in the past, Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer offers a clear and simple way forward in the most influential relationship of all - that between parent and child. "-gives wise, kind and simple advice on trying to do better with children" - "The Times".

[CODalmighty]

come and join me and 1010times ont he how to talk thread

[mm22bys]

We recently got a video and workbook for the "PPP program, which I think stands for Power of Positive Parenting.

We've only watched the video twice (haven't started on the workbook yet) but already it's had a massive effect on DS1 who's just turned three.

It's by Matt Sanders (and somebody else whose name I can't remember now) from the University of Qld in Australia (don't let that put you off though!)

[Cappuccino]

cod I have read your endless thread and felt a bit like I had missed out, as if you had all been away for exciting camp

and you had to be there

have I missed the boat or are you still going?

[CODalmighty]

we may start agin
i need to get in touch wiht 100 when hse is back around

what are of htt do you want us to focus on

[newlifenewname]

Family Caring Trust publications are shittily presented because they are doen on the cheap but they are FAB FAB FAB

I use them for running parentign courses and they form the basis of most of my behaviour management work theory.

[Cappuccino]

what area?

ok

we had a bit of an audit on our parenting skills the other day

after some discusion we decided that we were both sh*t at it all

[motherinferior]

do you want to be in a reading group of 2? We are terrible

[bobalinga]

Anything by Jan Fortune-Wood or maybe 'The natural child' by Jan Hunt (its a tad sickly in some places, especially the SN chapter - she never mentions any of the biggie disabilities)

[CODalmighty]

but HOW are you bad?
you cant just say " we are bad"
how does this manifets int he kids?

[Cappuccino]

lol mi

we can test out our progress by cooking with our children

oh cod they whine and they don't eat

they say 'NO!' and point

they pour stuff

dd1 wails and sulks

[Cappuccino]

dd2 spends her entire day standing in front of the cupboard shouting 'biscuit! BIIIIIISSSSCUUIIIIIIIIT!'

the bizarre thing is she hardly ever has a bloody biscuit

more than once (she is 2) she has said 'Oh GOD!' and stomped off

[CODalmighty]

well i never accept no
it s no thnaks or nowt.

[CODalmighty]

when they when say" ia m not tlakign abotu it any mroe adn change the subject"

or say |"when you asked me fo a fruit string what did i say?"

they say no

wellt here you are then

[Cappuccino]

oh I do do things right just like you say

but then they push it and piss me off

and I shriek at them

have been on a short fuse since the age of 17 tbh

[Cappuccino]

I think it is me who should go to the shed

[CODalmighty]

well i cant help you adn ytour short tmper i am afraid