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'Tarquin's a free-spirit.' No he's not he's a PITA.

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Bubble99 · 26/04/2007 20:44

I wouldn't class my parenting as Victorian, but this (or similar) always seems to be uttered by the parent of the child who is running amok and causing mayhem. Have you ever found yourself looking at the mother/father and thinking 'are you going to tell him to stop that/put the weapon down/keep the noise down?

I don't think I'm a particularly stern parent, I like noise and chatter, which is probably a good thing as I have 4 boys, but this kind of thing P's me off.

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Fillyjonk · 26/04/2007 20:44

pmsl

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RattyRat · 26/04/2007 20:46

When they're bawling in the supermarket "oh he's tired"

My arse, he just wants those fruit shoots from the trolley.

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DeviousDaffodil · 26/04/2007 20:49

TBH I ffind most children irritating apart from my own.

Actually I find my own irritating as well....

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QueenofBleach · 26/04/2007 21:01

A friend of ours told my brother off as his kids were running amok and spilled drink/wine on the carpet and asked him if he could keep his kids slightly more under control and my brother said that they were expressing themselves and should be allowed to be free. They have already been banned from another of their friends houses

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Bubble99 · 26/04/2007 21:03

Well, quite, DD.

I like well-behaved (but not priggy) children. I just hate the 'you're being uptight because you don't appreciate that my child is expressing him/herself' thing.

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elasticbandstand · 26/04/2007 21:06

was it their wine theyspilled?

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Bubble99 · 26/04/2007 21:06

QueenofBleach. That is exactly the sort of thing I mean.

Children knock things over. It is part of their job-description

But when the parent sits there and smiles as their child/children ruin everyone elses day. Grrrrrr!

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Winestein · 26/04/2007 21:06

I used to be a union steward and if we had evening meetings one couple with childcare issues brought their kids along. The kids systematically wrecked the office, banging on staplers, punching holes in every bit of paper they could find, using anything they got their hands on as hammers, throwing stuff around and ripping up stuff - all whilst I would be trying to work. At last their dad came into the office and I held my breath whilst waiting for the admonishment.

"Oh, excellent children. Creative play!!!" [said in singsong voice]

Tossers.

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Blandmum · 26/04/2007 21:08

Queenofbleach. I would express them to the door asap. And encourage them to explore their creativity somewhere else!

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TheDuchessOfNorksBride · 26/04/2007 21:08

Have your brothers DCs been to your house? Is that why you're the QueenofBleach?

Agree with ratty on 'tired'. Other old chestnuts in this vein are;

shy - when they're just rude
sensitive - as above
really adventurous - a dangerous liability with no road sense or respect for sharp, pointy things

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Wallace · 26/04/2007 21:10

Lol Bubble, did my thread inspire you to start this one?

You are just unlucky that your boys are not free spirits...

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elasticbandstand · 26/04/2007 21:10

lively

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Londonmamma · 26/04/2007 21:11

Have you not heard of the
'Indigo Children'?? They are VERY SPECIAL FREE SPIRITS and must express their creativity at all times and in all places

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Bubble99 · 26/04/2007 21:11

Winestein. Prize tosser, IMO.

Grrrr! on your behalf.

Half of these children and their parents need mini-ASBOs, IMO.

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SmileysPeoples · 26/04/2007 21:15

What about those parents who try to never say 'no' to their children as it's so negative??

Kids will be insenstive/rude/careless/thouhgtless/
boisterous/whiny/demanding etc. thety're kids.

It's out job to edge them towards edging less like this so that they are eventually socially acceptable adults.

When did this cease to be obvious?

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Bubble99 · 26/04/2007 21:15

I watched (and tried to prevent) a child wandering around at a M&T group, smashing up other children's Duplo models, knocking down towers etc.

Mother's response? ...Wait for it.....

'He had a bit of chocolate earlier.'

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NotanOtter · 26/04/2007 21:15

sheesh makes you wonder

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Prunerli · 26/04/2007 21:17

Had friends whose son was absolutely full-on, violent, etc. Was beating up his little sister one evening when round for dinner, mother closed the door and said "Well, you can either have a routine or have a social life."
Am still, five years on, trying to work out what she meant

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PinkTulips · 26/04/2007 21:19

'X that's not very nice. hahaha..... He's no sense of danger!'.... when her rough little brat tried to hold my dd under water and drown her and tried to pull her down a stairs. erm... an apology or telling the child off would be effing nice!

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Bubble99 · 26/04/2007 21:23

I'm not dissing the 'OMG, why is he/she doing this here and now when she/he wouldn't do this at home' parents.

It's the ones who look pleased that their child is acting in a way, which to the rest of society, is anti-social.

As said on another thread ( yes, Wallace ) I particualrly hate them roping the Italians/French into their 'if we were in Italy/France people would love my child for running, screamimg around a restaurant.'

Oarlocks.

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misdee · 26/04/2007 21:28

am loving this thread.

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QueenofBleach · 26/04/2007 22:42

I have recently had my brothers children ti stay for a week cos nobody else would have them when mu sil went on holiday and my DB was working and no I am QOB when O worked on a fish restauraunt which opened at weekends using a local cafe and I bleached the floors at 3 am after everyone else had trashed the place and that is what they called me. i love my brother and sil but when their kids aged 7 and 5 can't even be bothered to say thank you and great their grandmother at the door on their birthday with what have you got me then i get peed off

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FrannyandZooey · 26/04/2007 22:44

can people tell me more about the indigo children thing pls, as this is the second time I have read a reference to them this evening?

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Greensleeves · 26/04/2007 22:45

indigo children

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PinkTulips · 26/04/2007 22:47

indigo child = spoilt brat

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