DS is 6, almost 7 and I'm increasingly concerned about the way he just switches off / disengages from everything.
I've noticed before that he withdraws into himself if he gets upset or over whelmed, but that's typically been in situations where he gets so flooded with emotion, rather than everyday stuff.
But now it's like he has a tiny window of concentration and then he just switches off and starts making mistakes and loses all basic common sense or thinking. And it's happening throughout the day now, and getting worse not better. I'm sure he didn't used to be like this and it means it's really hard to do stuff with him, and just basic daily tasks have become like pulling teeth!
E.g. Made jam tarts yesterday after him begging to do it for ages. Was great for the first few minutes, engaged, listening, having lots of fun, which meant I could let him to lots of it, with me helping, and encouraging and praising him etc. Really nice positive bonding time. Then I put pastry in fridge to rest for a few mins, and when we started up again it was like doing it with a completely different child. A child who was distracted although claimed to want to do it, and got upset when I said we should stop. But then behaved so badly it was impossible to finish.
He tipped milk all over the floor and didn't even seem aware he was doing it, even when I was shouting at him to stop (after the third or fourth time I'd tried to get him to notice what he was doing). He just stared and carried on. He picked up the wrong things (like, picked up a lemon when I asked him to pick up the rolling pin), couldn't remember what he was doing two seconds into doing it, again and again and again, not just once or twice. He ignored everything I said, whether it was joking or nice or instructions or me trying to get his attention.
Final straw for me was him carefully and yet without really noticing what he was doing, tipping up a plate after he'd been told to watch the crumbs on it, and he had said yes, then just phased out and held the plate upside down for no reason at all, and didn't even seem aware he'd done it or then why crumbs weren't still on the plate. Then straight after that he took his apron off then walked into the lounge and put on on the piano keyboard ... for no reason! He knew that apron had cooking stuff on it and he knew he'd just spilled crumbs everywhere from the plate, and he knew that his (brand new massively special Christmas present) needs to be kept clean and no food or mess near it... yet he still did it, and then looked completely blank when I asked him why he'd done it. And then he did the same thing with the apron about 10 mins later,.. I actually cannot clear up the mess he makes quick enough as its bloody constant.
And he's (apparently) surprised and confused each time???
I don't know if this extreme 'absentminded ness' is him behaving badly on purpose, or a sign of something being wrong with him, or a phase they all go through or what?!
I really dont know if it's a 'can't' focus/ engage or a 'can't be bothered' type of situation. Or deliberate behaviour.
Either way I need to change the way I'm reacting to it, I'm normally so patient with him :( but it would help a lot if I knew what was going on.
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DS 'switching off' is this normal? What to do?
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MiscellaneousAssortment · 15/01/2017 11:41
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