Help!!
I live with two of my daughters, both of whom are in their early twenties. There are just us three, and there have been just us three for the past seventeen years.
Ok so.. things are awful!
Things (things being family life and our relationships with each other) have been deteriorating since before the daughters hit their teens.
I don't know where to start really, one daughter lives in her room of seriously mentally ill filthy squalor, rubbish and stuff she's hijacked from the kitchen like saucepans, empty beans tins along with years of mouldy banana skins, all the cutlery, mugs etc. My doctor says there is nothing she can do to help my daughter unless my daughter asks for help, she is not going to do this as she has THE INTERNET and knows more than doctors.
Other daughter works two days a week and then is so exhausted that she stays in bed for the other five days.
So.. for exhausted read lazy, she also stayed in bed for the last two years of school and didn't get any qualifications and blames me for not "making her go to school" HAHAHAA OMFG!! School would NOT support me, every single day I phoned them to ask for help getting her to school- their answer-threaten me with prosecution over and over again if I didn't get my angry daughter into school.
So.. no dishes get washed, no rubbish gets put in the bin, the dog does not get walked or even let out to go to the loo, the fire doesn't get lit, dog poo doesn't get picked up, this list makes it sound very trivial but it is hell.
The response from dd23 when reminded to clean up after herself is ANGRY AGGRESSIVE VIOLENT UPSET
Response from dd21 is she works and is exhausted and dd23 should do it or, as I'm the only person who gives a shit-I should do it.
I have some relationship counselling lined up with relate, there's a two month waiting list, I need to figure out how we can all live together because I really feel I don't want to spend my time picking up after adults, not mentioning it to them because they are so angry, reinforcing their current crap behaviour.
I'd love a one bedroom flat for myself, I've spoken to the girls about moving out, dd23 says no, she won't be ok and dd21 says no she can't afford it, both say they don't want to live here with me but here they bloody are and no-one's enjoying themselves.
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PowerScreech · 06/12/2016 09:09
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