I'm expecting my second baby soon and DS will be 20 months when she is born. DS currently goes to nursery 3 mornings a week. Now I'm really worried about how I'm going to cope looking after both of them, especially because I intend to exclusively breastfeed for at least 6 months like I did with DS and I have no clue how I am going to do that while entertaining a toddler. So I suggested to DH that we extend my son's nursery hours to 3 FULL days in order to have more one-on-one time with the baby. My husband is not dead against it but he feels a bit funny about leaving DS in someone else's care for extended hours while I'm at home full time. But I think it will be really challenging to look after them both at the same time. I still remember how hard the first months were with my son and how sleep deprived I was and how much time I spent breastfeeding and holding/carrying him around. And I'm worried about the drop off and pick up with both babies which I have to do by train/pram because we only have one car and DH takes it to work. I find the thought of it really stressful especially if by the time I get home I only have 2 hours until I need to get ready to pick DS up again - thus my suggestion to extend it to full days. Perhaps I should also mention that my husband travels for work a fair amount and that I have little to no help from family. Am I being overly worried/dramatic?? Perhaps I'm a bit "spoilt" because in my home country it's normal for all children to be in full time childcare from 12 months which is paid for by the government, so that's how my siblings and partners are doing it - so if you have a second baby, you not only get decent maternity pay for a year but your older one can stay in full time childcare for free (or almost free). Anyway, I'd be grateful if you could share your experiences of looking after 2 little ones and whether you had any help / childcare.
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