My children (10 and 8) were adopted a few years ago - both have behavioural and emotional delay and difficulties and are both in therapy due their past trauma and my eldest goes to a behavioural school and under CAHMS.<br>I make it very clear in the interview and the contract that both my children have had major trauma in their past so need consistency and nurture.<br>Our very previous nanny was with us for 7 months.<br>After 2 months she told me that she had booked a 2 week holiday in Spain in term time in June and that she was just going - I told her that she had to ask for our agreement first as per her contract and allowed her although made it very clear that I would have to take unpaid leave out of my work (self employed) to cover her holidays - she promised she wouldnt do it again and a month later she did - she booked a 3 week holiday to Florida next June for 3 weeks in term time week after half term. Explained that this was not agreed with us and asked for her to change it and she said no - so we chatted alot and remained on friendly basis but explained we would have to give her her contracted 6 weeks notice which we did.<br>This is where everything really went very wrong.<br>My son was starved as a young child and has a food trauma and is hyper viligant with food and scared someone is going to take it off him - the Nanny one evening said that my son had been very defiant and rude to her (she knows he has challenging behaviour and the reasons why) and that was that - my daughter the day after said that the Nanny told my son to hurry up eating his meal otherwise she would throw his newly bakes cakes to our chickens - he said no - the cakes got fed to the chickens and my son went beserk<br>on another occasion my son had thrown one of my daughters teddys down the stairs to our puppy - the nanny apparently told him off and he said no - so she got all his teddies from his bed and threw them to our 4 puppies with that my son ran out of the house and down the lane (I was at work) - he went missing ???? for how long - but I was driving home from work and found our Nanny strolling down our lane trying to find him - she had made no attempt to ring us (tells her that in an emergency contact parents)<br>on another occasion (which was the last) I came home and she said she had been given a thick lip by my 11 year old son - she told me she took him upstairs against his will to have a shower - he refused and she tried to undress him against his will and he started to get physically aggressive to her as he probably got very scarred - she carried on and got hold of him round the back and he threw his fists back and knocked her in the face<br>another incident is that he refused to feed the chickens so she got a dvd of his and broke it in front of him <br>my daughter also tells me they were taken back to her house to sit in a hot car with no drinks and the windows closed so the Nanny would look after her dogs - without out prior consent <br>the morning after the shower incident i sacked her for gross misconduct on many accounts <br>she was already serving within the 6 week notice period but i really feel the relationship between her and the children were gone and her behaviour and demenour with my son was not acceptable particularly with a child with past trauma and PTSD <br>she has since come back to me for unfair dismissal and that i have lied about above incidences and gross misconduct is an excuse to get rid of her quickly <br>she also gave my son who has behavioural like ADHD sweets and sugary drinsk despite it stating in contract not to<br>she is asking for £3000 payment so she doesnt take me to court<br>i still feel very justified that she bullied my son and did not take his trauma and needs into account <br>she has written me a letter stating I havent given her chance to discuss these further - i have written back and listed them all