I have 22mo and nearly 6 mo dd's. DH works odd shifts but usually looks after dd1 from 10pm (ie overnight) till breakfast. Dd2 is a terrible sleeper and the most I've got is a 2 hour stretch since she was born. Hence I'm knackered. Dd1 goes to nursery 3 full days a week. My mum lives quite close and often comes to help with bedtime if DH not around. I can also stay at her place if DH on nights.
Basically I feel like I'm a terrible mother. I constantly shout at dd1 for not behaving and get so frustrated when she doesn't listen....but she's 22 months old! I don't have a routine with feeding or naps for dd2 and despite DH helping to try and settle her, she seems only to want me. I'm so tired I can't manage to get through the nights without Co sleeping which I don't enjoy and don't want to do ideally. I also can't stand the idea of letting her cry. DH sleeps in a different room and I'd (sort of) like to share a bedroom again. I worry all the time about how difficult bedtimes etc will be on my own, though I only do it about once a week.
I also feel massively guilty that I am so lucky to have 2 healthy children and lots of friends and family to help but still feel like I can't cope.
Do you think the reason I feel so bad is that I get so much help and so haven't learnt to manage by myself? Or just sheer exhaustion? I hate that I am wishing their lives away as I loved being at work and having one dc, but now I am on maternity leave, feeling unhealthy, and feeling awful every day I just want time to pass 'so it gets easier' purely because they will be older. I have lots of friends in similar situations but feel like they all manage so much better and without complaining!
I think I need someone to tell me to snap out of it, buck up my ideas and just get on with things and stop asking for help, so that I get used to managing things by myself and therefore cope better. Please someone be honest and tell me if this is what I actually need to do, and if you have been in a similar situation any tips on how you get through the days. Thank you x
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golfmonkey · 03/10/2016 15:51
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