Opinions please

[flower1121]

Hi

Just wanted some advice on a little situation and wether you would do the same.....

So it's my daughters 5th birthday on the day the kids break up for half term. She's obviously going to school on her birthday then will come home, quickly get changed then head off to a soft play place for her party with her school friends. This starts at 5pm and finishes at 7pm.

Me and her dad have been separated for over 2 years and he moved back to be with his family which is 120 miles away.

Every other weekend my kids - I have a son too - go and stay with their dad. We meet half way on a Friday after school and do the same to pick up on a Sunday afternoon. I hate the kids have to travel on a weekend but it's the only way.


Anyway her birthday happens to fall on a Friday she should be with her dad but we both agreed to her having a party on her birthday and he will come over for it. He said he would take the kids back home with him after the party which I said no too. It's not fair they do a full day of school, go to the party and then have to do a 2 hour car journey. Plus my daughter won't get to open any presents as I don't see when we would be able to fit it all in. I suggested he stay at my mums house with the kids and he can take them back the next day - he's having them for a few days with it being half term.

He then announces he can't do that as he's going away for the weekend and would be leaving the kids with his mum and dad. Why he's booked a weekend away around his daughters birthday on the weekend he's supposed to have them I have no idea but anyway. 

He rang last night to say he had changed his mind and he would stay at my mums but he would be waking the kids up at 5.30-6am as he needs to be on the train and back where he lives for 10.30am. Again I said no, it's not fair to wake them up and drag them out at that time just because he's got a train to catch.

I've told him I'll have them instead and we can meet on the Monday when he's back. That way my daughter gets some proper time to play with her new toys etc, he's not rushed getting back for his train and everyone's a winner. He then screamed down the phone to me that it's his weekend and I cannot take them away or stop them going with them. HE IS NOT EVEN GOING TO BE THERE!! I understand his mum and dad want to spend time with their grandchildren but I do not see why my kids should be dragged about to because it's convenient for him to catch his daft train.

Apparently I'm just causing arguments and being petty. I'm not, I'm just thinking of my kids and not wanting to make them over tired. I want my daughter to spend time opening her presents, not being stuck in a car for 2 hours on her bday night or first thing the next morning.

Anyway soz this is long, just needed a rant. Does anyone agree with me or am I just being petty?

[havalina1]

Commented on your other thread!

[flower1121]

Thank you, I never know which is the best place to post things on here lol