Have two young DCs, eldest is nearly 7. Basically DC1 never does what she's asked to when she's asked. Mostly about getting washed and dressed the morning and getting ready for bed. But pretty much everything really. I'd driving me insane. And I feel like I'm losing my rag with her on a daily basis. sad Obviously it has to change. So I thought what she probably needs is to be allowed to take more responsibility for herself and that, in turn, giving her the power to produce consequences she either likes, or doesn't like. So, this evening she was told, twice, very clearly and very calmly that if she messed around after lights out, including coming downstairs, she would not be allowed to go to a party which is happening soon. The logic behind that being we had lots of nonsense last night and if she wants to go to a party she needs to get some good nights sleep. 5 minutes after lights out she came downstairs. So she's now not allowed to go to the party. Obviously she cried and asked for "one more chance" but I kept to what I had told her earlier and made it clear she needs to learn to listen to what we tell her, respect what we tell her and believe us when we tell her what the consequences are to not doing those things. I also told her that tomorrow morning I expect her to do what she's asked, the first time she's asked to to it or she won't be going to her after-school hobby either. And that she will continue to miss out on things until she can get herself ready in the mornings without any fuss and can go to bed without any fuss. Am I doing this all wrong? Am I doing what I should have started a few years ago? Or am I being too harsh? If so, what the fuck else am I supposed to do? Surely at her age this kind of behaviour is just ridiculous?! Please help before I completely lose the plot.
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