How do you politely tell someone that when you have their child round for a playdate, you only want the child, and not the parent who wants to drink a bottle of wine?
I don't drink, and my son has recently started a new school where he has become very friendly with one boy in particular.
The boy and his mum came over for a playdate, which was fine as she didn't know me well and I would do the same first time. However the day before I asked her if she wanted to stay and she said yes we will get a bottle of wine. As a non drinker, I never really know how to respond to these suggestions. I used to drink loads of wine, but have cut it out alcohol for health reasons. I'm not prudish to booze its just theres a time and a place.
When we did the playdate, she was already pissed from lunch so I managed to wrangle out of the wine quandary - however she then told me that she can't have anyone at her house ever, because of her partner having trust issues because they were burgled 5 years ago. She said even her best mate can't come round. I found this odd, and problematic for any future playdates as they will all have to be at mine. I felt like it was a made up weird excuse. I said next time the boy can come alone, and her response was No she will come and bring alcohol. I really don't know how to politely say Im not up for this....
When my son has a friend over, it is often a chance for me to clean up cook the tea etc, if you have to entertain the parent, every time, it will become a rather tedious and awkward affair. Also you hope your child can go round to theirs on occasion too which apparently will never happen.
Im really stuck for how to deal with this.
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user1474551282 · 22/09/2016 15:17
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