DD1 is an awful sleeper. She always has been. She was in NICU for 9 weeks and when she came home I just wanted to cuddle her. I convinced myself that we had made her a bad sleeper and vowed not to do the same win DD2. DD2 was only 7 weeks early so she wasn't in hospital for as long. When she was in SCBU she'd fall asleep when we cuddled her but then lay her down and she'd sleep. I thought we were onto something. She came home and we did the same but somewhere along the way she only slept if we held her, so that's what we did. Now, at 3 months old she occasionally sleeps in her carrycot, doesn't really sleep for that long during the day and at night she might sleep in her cot for a few hours but after that she will sleep in bed with me and she will sleep much better and longer for it.
But I feel guilty. I feel like I'm making her reliant on me and I should instead be trying to teach her to sleep independently. Every time I decide to hold her rather than lay her down I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing. It doesn't bother me to hold her or have her sleep with me, I don't mind at all, I just don't feel it's the right thing for her.
Please give me your words of wisdom to convince me that this is okay. That just because we're doing this now we won't be doing it forever, and I'm not in some way damaging her by not teaching her independence.
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Help me convince myself that what we're doing is okay
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maybethedayafter · 18/09/2016 21:43
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