I have name changed for this as aware my friend may be a mumsnetter.
I have this friend who I have seen almost fortnightly since our DC were born almost 3 years ago. We are great friends and have supported each other through the highs and lows of baby stage and now toddler into preschool stage and always got on very well despite having quite different parenting styles.
Lately (last couple of months) I have noticed her DS behaviour becoming more and more disruptive and have mostly accepted that it is the age and stage for this but the last couple of meet ups we have had have been awful and his behaviour is terrible.
She is extremely laid back and even sometimes allowing ds to do things that are dangerous because she is chatting/ eating/ can't be bothered (her words) and I am getting more and more anxious when we are together.
We alternate between houses for play dates as neither of us have much money.
The last few times we have been at hers I have witnessed the following:
DS climbing on coffee table and banging on the TV on the wall
Throwing toys down the stairs repeatedly resulting in them breaking
Emptying a whole box of toys and then just jumping on them breaking a few in the process which then result in sharp plastic
Standing on high window sills and jumping around
Each and every time she has just moved DS and laughed about it.
She didn't even notice the broken toys and I have to sift through them as didn't want my DS to then stand on one and hurt himself.
Anyway yesterday they came to me and I spent the whole time watching her DS, clearing up after him as he was getting out my things as well as every single toy, he also managed to break a photo frame which was on a high shelf by climbing up my bookcase and she did nothing. I thought that was bad enough but after they had left I go into my kitchen and find drawing all over my wall and white kitchen units! I have scrubbed and scrubbed but it won't come off. Its the last straw for me as there have been so many issues and things broken lately that my DS usually ends in tears.
I thought that maybe she was struggling with his behaviour so asked her how she was finding this stage as my DS is no angel and I've had a few 'lose my shit' moments but she just replied that it was exhausting but so much fun!
I asked what she did when ds didn't listen to her (as if asking for advice) and she just said she couldn't be bothered to carry on telling him as he doesn't listen anyway.
Obviously she doesn't know about my kitchen and I'm not quite sure how to tell her? And in all fairness I'm not even sure what the point would be as she probably won't do anything about it anyway.
I don't want to stop seeing her as I still think of her as a close friend but I just don't want them over here anymore! We will often meet at the park if the weather is OK but more often than not, it is raining and like I said we then alternate houses.
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Namechanger5432121 · 16/09/2016 16:09
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