I have one ds who is 14 months old. I returned to work when he was 8 months old, starting off on part time hours and have gradually increased to full time. This consists of 3x long shifts (7.30am-9.30pm) with occasional night shifts. Not ideal but I figure it means more full days off at home. While I work ds is with either dh (who also works shifts but on different days) or MIL. He is also occasionally left with my sister, brother in law or stepfather. He gets on well with all these family members, is delighted to see them and behaves beautifully for the entire time he spends with them.
The problem is, since starting full time hours his behaviour when with me has been different. He's very clingy, anxious and upset. Constantly wanting to be picked up (then immediately put back down) won't play with his toys or be in a room alone and being more attached to his dummy, bottle etc. This is only when I am alone with him. As soon as a family member appears he wants to be held by them and cries when they leave and doesn't want to be left with me.
Is this normal or does it show that he is being left by me too often or for too long periods? I'm thinking of getting him into a nursery for one afternoon a week but wonder if this would make it worse by adding another carer into his hectic week.
It's making me feel stressed at work and I can't enjoy the time I spend with my son either as his behaviour makes me frustrated. Any suggestions?
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Weebeastiebaby · 10/08/2016 14:15
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