4 month old just won't stop crying/whinging

(10 Posts)
Cashewnutts Mon 08-Aug-16 17:15:04

I'm just at my wits end. It started on Thursday last week with just occasional moaning and whinging every few hours. We put it down to teething as she's showing a lot of symptoms plus what appears to be a tooth can be seen under her gums.

Since Thursday its just got worse and worse. It's now at the point where she is having fits of completely inconsolable crying at least two or three times a day and does not stop whinging when she's awake.

She has had moments of happiness and smiles throughout the day but these are massively outnumbered by her crying fits. If my OH wasn't on school holidays right now, I dread to think what would have happened by now. He's been so good with taking her away/out for a bit when I've had too much of it.

We did notice last week she was taking more milk that before and sometimes her fits of crying are stopped by shoving a bottle in her mouth, which she will gulp down so quick she gives herself awful wind- this then adds to the screaming and doesn't solve anything. She also suffers from reflux, which she has gaviscon for however she's had that for a few weeks and has been totally fine. She's had a bit of every painkiller/teething medication going (not all at once!!) and nothing seems to have stopped this.

OH is currently upstairs trying to console her, she's been screaming for almost an hour now. She keeps stopping (I'm assuming he's distracting her or getting her to take her dummy) but then she starts up again within a few minutes.

I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice or just getting it all off my chest. It's got to the point where I wish I had never had her. Which just adds to how upset I feel because I love her to pieces and it's so conflicting.

Please tell me this won't last forever, I don't think I can cope anymore.

Footle Mon 08-Aug-16 17:39:31

Earache ? I mean her, not you !

Smithofheavens Mon 08-Aug-16 17:43:40

I'd go back to the doctors. The red flag for me was her gulping her feed down. When one of my children had reflux it was combined with CMPI and he was bringing up tiny bits of bile which was burning his throat, and the gulping soothed it momentarily but then would make matters worse in the long run. He ended up on Neocate, which combined with domperidone and ranitidine was miraculous. He also would arch his back too before he got the new formula. We all nearly went mad.

BifsWif Mon 08-Aug-16 17:53:22

I agree, back to the doctors. It sounds like something is really bothering her.

Cashewnutts Mon 08-Aug-16 18:15:03

Footle she hasn't got a fever nor is she particularly bothered about her ears. She also sleeps quite well and doesn't seem uncomfortable when laid down. We did think ear infection/ache to begin with but without those symptoms we ruled it out.

Smithofheavens sorry, should have been a little more specific- she doesn't gulp every feed, nor does she feed every time that she screams and we offer her a bottle. I will definitely keep an eye on that but the gaviscon has helped her, she doesn't arch at all now and keeps the majority of her feeds down.

I'm not sure if it is wholly medical/physical. Right now she's sat in her chair crying every time a toy falls out of her reach or stops vibrating/playing music/rattling etc. Could it partly just be a bit of a growth spurt of developmental leap?

thumb3lina Mon 08-Aug-16 18:24:09

Sounds like my DD, she's on domperidone and ranitidine (spelling?) which help her but some times the only way to calm her down is breast feeding for comfort. I also wear her in a sling to keep her upright because she just moans constantly if she's not being held or very distracted.

gammatron Mon 08-Aug-16 18:29:52

My 4 month old is doing exactly the same, it's hard work! I'm putting it down to teething or maybe a leap (if you believe in them, so far they've been fairly accurate for us!)

29redshoes Mon 08-Aug-16 18:36:48

Is she still napping ok during the day? When my DD has screamy days it's almost always because she's overtired.

Timetogrowup2016 Mon 08-Aug-16 19:38:46

Dd is six months and has been like this since about four months.

It's frustrating. Their frustrated because their suddenly interested in everything around them but can't physically move...
I've had fucking months of it now and cry most days

Cashewnutts Mon 08-Aug-16 20:24:04

29red she sleeps perfectly. 3 or 4 decent naps a day and at least a 6 hour stretch at night, still wakes at 3 for a night feed, no sleeping through yet!

Timetogrow that's what my OH has put it down to. After watching her playing earlier on, I agree but she is definitely also uncomfortable in her body.

We gave her Medela teething granules in the end and they worked a charm. Since 5pm, she's only had a minor grumble because she wanted to go to sleep. Currently dozing in my arms.

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