If you had PND, did it affect the relationship with your child when they were older?
I had severe PND with my first child and didn't bond with her straight away so this has bothered me on and off ever since. Luckily for me, I got good treatment and recovered quickly from the PND and touch wood my DD seems to be a normal and mostly happy child.
Although I'm fully recovered and love her massively now, the experience has left me open to feeling a bit insecure about my relationship with her. She never had any separation anxiety as a baby or toddler which worried me (isn't it a sign of attachment?) and has always seemed to prefer her dad over me. Now she's 3 and when she says "I don't like you mummy" or "You're not my friend!" I can't help but wonder whether it's a sign of her not being well attached to me or being able to sense that we had a difficult start.
Written down I know this sounds silly as 3 year olds say things designed to get attention - and I don't react when she says things like this. It's just I feel like I'm living under the shadow of PND and I won't know whether it's damaged her or our relationship until she's much older. Does anyone else feel like this?
Or if you had PND and have an older child, how is your relationship with them now and do you think the PND had an impact?
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Does PND affect the mother child relationship in the long term?
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changerlenom · 30/06/2016 10:12
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