I'm a first time poster so please forgive my lack of acronyms etc but I'm having a complete nightmare and would love some help and advice. My 13 month boy has generally been a dream sleeper. We have always maintained a good sleep routine: bath, bottle, book, song and then sleep. He has always been put down in the cot awake but drowsy and has been great at falling asleep by himself. On the odd occasion he has had a grumble for long enough that we have gone in but generally a hand rested on him has settled him and we have been able to leave again. Similarly at nap time I haven't really had problems, again putting him down when he looks tired and being able to leave the room.
However for the last week, he has suddenly started waking at night absolutely screaming. Not crying, but screaming blue murder and we have had to go into him. On bad nights he has woken 3 times and taken up to 2 hours to go back to sleep, screaming if you try and leave the room before he has fallen asleep again. He has also been waking earlier (probably not helped by the summer time light) and napping has been irregular. At nap time he has a full on tantrum when you take him into the darkened room, being almost impossible to hold as he is pushing, kicking and screaming so much. I have tried holding onto him and shushing and patting loudly and firmly which always worked when he was littler. Sometimes it works but sometimes it doesn't he is just so cross and I have had to resort to using a dummy which I haven't touched for over 6 months. As soon as I put the dummy in he immediately droops with tiredness and falls asleep, with me normally being able to remove the dummy again after a couple of minutes. At night we are having a similar problem: screaming if we try and leave the room before he has fallen asleep. We are trying the gradual retreat and last night he was happy enough to fall asleep while I sat right next to the door. But he had another bad night, waking every 2 hours. This has all coincided with him being quite clingy with daddy (not so much with me) and he did start nursery about 6 weeks ago; however he is fine at drop off and pick up now with no tears or clinginess.
I have questioned separation anxiety as well as whether or not it could be teething related, but generally he seems ok during the day, it is really just nap and bed time. Also I am loathe to keep resorting to a dummy when he is like this as we only ever used one irregularly when he was little and haven't used one at all for months. Any advice or ideas as to what the problem could be as I am dreading every night and nap?
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13 month old tantrums, night time waking and napping nightmares
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Pickles84 · 27/06/2016 10:53
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