My 7yo Ds struggles with his emotions e.g. becomes angry at the drop of a hat if something goes wrong or he doesn't get his own way; gets disproportionately upset over 'little things' and if he has to do something he doesn't want to. I am working on this with him by labelling emotions, praising calm behaviour and when he has settled down after an outburst etc, explaining I understand his feelings in certain situations etc. This has helped a little but progress is slow. Also trying to set firmer boundaries.
One big sticking point is childcare - until recently I had a flexible part time job (family business). Ds sometimes goes to a holiday club for school hols, but recently he has refused to go, kicking up a fuss and running away from me when I'm trying to get him there. He is very clingy to me. I have been able to take him to work with me, but soon I'm starting a full time position and he'll be going to holiday club and before/after school club most days. I'm dreading the stress of telling him, preparing him and then actually getting him to comply, as I'll be dropping him off myself most mornings on the way to work.
Has anyone been through this with their child? I would welcome any advice or suggestions, I wondered if some sort of counselling may help him or if this is a bit OTT.
Added stress will come from the fact that me and his dad are divorcing, he doesn't know yet as we have been holding off telling Ds. I am starting to think it would be better to tell him now to give him time to acclimatise. We're all living in the same house as normal and will do until we decide how to proceed re the house (to sell or not to sell, am looking into buying out my H to give DS stability of home environment).
I am so worried about how he's going to handle all this change :(
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Anxiety in 7yo - separation issues and divorce
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Ollivander · 14/06/2016 10:39
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