Is your partner a 'hardman'?

[Elf]

My husband is not and therefore doesn't think twice about commenting on dd1's pretty clothes or carrying a doll or pink bag or something that she doesn't want to carry anymore.

I just wonder sometimes if the father is a man's man and not into showing emotion so much or worried about their masculinity being knocked how they cope with these things.

Would a toughie walk about town carrying pink toys and dolls, soothe their crying child calmly and lovingly, read bedtime stories, allow themselves to be dressed up in funny clothes and things like that? I can't think of other examples but hopefully you get my drift.

[Edam]

I love seeing great big strapping blokes pushing prams or carrying their little girl's frilly pink umbrella or something. Esp. when I go back home, up North, where it used to be verboten.

Dh looks like a great big strapping man and has no problems with anything you sugges (although emotionally he's far from macho, very sensitive). Did find his limit though when I sent him out to buy a doll's buggy for ds's second birthday - he refused to buy the only one he could find, because it was pink! Luckily my sister made him get it and ds loved.

[Quootiepie]

DH is abit... tough sometimes, but will carry my handbag, wear my scarf if he is cold and forgot him and i'm warm, stand for ages in womans shops while I try things on... He is more of a man in my eyes like that. He even had a Clarins facial once!

[Tommy]

the other day my DH had an interview and took the car (which normally I drive - full of the DSs stuff)I said "do you want to take the car seats and stuff out before you go" and he said "No - this is what my life is..." which I thought was quite sweet...

Don't know if he would carry girly handbag down street but then we only have DSs so we don't have too may things like that in our house anyway

[CountTo10]

DP isn't too bad which is good considering ds seems to be going through a phase of enjoying dressing up in his friends princess dresses, wearing her barbie shoes and pushing his baby round in his buggy!!!! DP does try to be the masculine force as it were and increase his drive for footie etc which I think is good but you do need a balance. It's funny cause my dp is not one for showing affection etc and I was a bit worried about how this would work with ds but actually he is very affectionate with ds, I spose cause its different.

[Elf]

Well that is a good positive response - seems men really are getting more sensitive as the years go by.

[Elf]

Well that is a good positive response - seems men really are getting more sensitive as the years go by.

[Elf]

Well that is a good positive response - seems men really are getting more sensitive as the years go by.

[BibiThree]

I think it shows that a man is more confident in his masculinity and role as father. They can't really believe someone will think the dolly pram/handbag/fluffy tiara is theirs can they?

[aDad]

no she's not

and nor am i, although left to my own devices i can be blokey, drink beer and talk football! Have been a part-time SAHD when my dp went back to work though.

We have an all singing all dancing pink frilly fairy of a dd1 so any blokiness wouldn't have lasted anyway. And I'm sure dd2 will go much the same way.