Temper tantrums/controlling nearly 3 year old

[elotrolado]

I'm desperate for some advice! My 2 year old DS (3 next week) tantrums have left me at the end of my tether. He really is a ticking timebomb.

It's got a whole lot worse in the last few weeks (but it's been bad since he was 2). He screams loudly at everything and anything - for example earlier he screamed for 30 minutes because I touched the stool for the toilet in the bathroom before he did!

There seems to be nothing that will calm him down, I've tried time out, timers, holding tight, ignoring. I'll go to him (after leaving him to calm down for 5 minutes) and he'll shout 'I'm sorry' at me and I say 'it's ok, come here' holding my arms out for a cuddle then he backs up saying 'No, no, no' over and over again and then it builds again into a full blown tantrum. His voice is constantly hoarse due to the screaming - I'm really worried it will do some permanent damage.

It's so exhausting - he often wakes up cross and goes to bed the same, making everyday tasks like getting dressed/brushing teeth a full on battle.

He goes to bed at 7.30 but wakes early, anything from 5.45-6.45am. Tried putting to bed earlier but he lies awake for at least an hour before dropping off.

Sorry for the ramble, any advice massively welcomed!

[JuxtapositionRecords]

Does he still nap?

How is his speech? My mum speaks about my brother being like your DS and a lot of it came down to delayed speech and frustration from that.

[elotrolado]

He does nap but usually only if he's in the car or has woke up very early. He often wakes up from this grumpy though.

I think his speech is ok, apart from the hoarse voice - although not as advanced as his brother was at the same age. How can I tell where he should be with his speech at this age? He goes to nursery once a week but I get very little feedback from them. I ask them if he's like this there and they say never!

[JuxtapositionRecords]

The Health visitor can check his speech. Did he have a 2 year check? Can he ask for what he wants etc?

[elotrolado]

Yes he did and it was ok. He's pretty good, he tells me about what he's done during the day, ask for things he wants, remembers events etc. So on that front I think he's fine - so not sure why he's like it. He's very cuddly and loving when he's not cross, and often says 'I love you' - just wish I could get to the bottom of it!