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DD biting only me.

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anotherBadAvatar · 19/05/2016 10:55

DD is 18m, and for the last 3-4 months has become a real biter - but only really me. Not DH or any one else

To be honest, she only really does it when I can see she's frustrated with something, but I'm not sure what approach is best to tackle this. Do I tell her "No", ignore her, what?

For information, she's has very few words still, but seems to have a good understanding (will follow commands etc). She eats well, sleeps well, and goes to nursery 3 days a week.

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Dragongirl10 · 19/05/2016 17:46

This has to stop, and yes she is old enough to understand NO.

Next time say NO sharply, then 'Mummy hurts' and rub arm or wherever sh has bitten you.

If she does it again repeat then put her down somewhere safe alond for 5 mins so she realises you will not hold her/play with her if she bites.

My ds did bite me a few times, the third time so hard ( he made me bleed), l inadvertantly dopped him off my lap onto his bottom on the floor!

The shock was written all over his face despite being not at all hurt...that was the last time he bit anyone.

Not suggesting you drop/throw your dc!!! but a sharp No and putting her down should stop her.

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anotherBadAvatar · 21/05/2016 21:07

"No" is usually met with much glee and laughing, Sad, but I still do it.

Quite often the biting will follow me picking her up from doing something dangerous/naughty. For example, she was trying to play with a plug, I told her no, then picked her up to move her away from it and distract her with something else.
She bit me on the cheek! It was obvious because she was cross/frustrated that I wouldn't let her do what she wanted

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Dragongirl10 · 22/05/2016 11:28

If she is laughing at you that is totally unacceptable, so a punishment is neccessary, time out somewhere boring,/ sit on step/ take something away she really likes and say why. It has to be 1)immediate and 2) something that she wants/likes. Often actions speak louder than words when a toddler thinks everything bad they do is funny.

She has to learn it is not nice to hurt people, otherwise when she goes to nursery or school other kids will retaliate, and rightly so. Let her see you are upset for a while.

You have to get the message through that hurting results immediately in a punishment she does not like...every time.

It is a stage many go through, as mine did, but still has to be stopped, now my ex biter is one of the kindest boys to other kids you could ever meet!

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