Anyone find 3.5 year a difficult age - will 4 be better?

(22 Posts)
milkyman Thu 19-May-16 08:38:25

The whinging, irational requests, moodiness - they are like teenagers. What is four lik

milkyman Thu 19-May-16 13:27:19

Bump

SharingMichelle Thu 19-May-16 13:32:51

hollow laughter

I do remember saying of eldest that 4 is when they turn into people you can communicate with, reason with, spend enjoyable time with. Apparently youngest, now 4, didn't get that memo.

Bimberley Thu 19-May-16 13:38:27

Yea 4 isn't great either!

IMO they get better after starting school!

Bimberley Thu 19-May-16 13:39:58

Actually that would be a lie! After a YEAR at school wink

purpleapple1234 Thu 19-May-16 13:40:22

Sorry, but DD was so delightful at 3.5 that I really thought that I'd love her to stay that age forever, but then she turned 4. Proper little madam!

Honestly, every child is different and every parent too. Your DS's nightmare 3 may turn into a joyful 4. Good luck.

GretchenBeckett Thu 19-May-16 13:42:04

It doesn't get easier it just gets different. I have two teenagers and in many ways they're harder work than when they were little.

OlafLovesAnna Thu 19-May-16 13:43:43

My 3.5yr old is like this. She can be delightful then if she's not getting her own way wails like a banshee.
It's an endless series of negotiations, and she goes out of her way to annoy her older siblings which leads to me mediating.

I'm hoping 4 might bring the age of reason

MavolioBent Thu 19-May-16 13:47:08

If its any consolation my nearly teenager is much easier to deal with than my 3.5 year old smile

That said they do all seem easier once they get settled at school and mature a little bit. Sadly some are always difficult tho... (dd1 (7) grrrr)

Euripidesralph Thu 19-May-16 13:52:41

Just a fist bump from me ON am in the same boat ds1 bless him is 3.5 and oh my dear God. ....light of my life but my good God he is arguing all the time , determined to kill himself by jumping off various surface and has developed a vendetta against the bath !! He's a really wonderful kind caring big brother and then will try to sit on the cat

I don't care if it's true or not believing things will be different at four is keeping me sane grin

minipie Thu 19-May-16 14:03:22

Watching with interest.

So far DD is better at 3.5 still bloody difficult though than she was at 3 and was better at 3 than 2.5 ... so I'm hoping that 4 continues the upwards trend.

milkyman Thu 19-May-16 15:38:15

Great...

storybrooke Fri 20-May-16 10:27:43

My almost 4 year old is an absolute joy, been that way since about 2 when he started talking properly and he's just getting better the more he can articulate and the conversations we have melt me!

My two year old who can't communicate like her brother could is incredibly trying (I adore her beautiful little self!) but I can't wait for the words to start and to be able to reason with her. She had a meltdown because I sat down this morning, because she couldn't reach her coat, because I looked at her and then again when I kissed her head after she motioned me to. I'm praying it gets better for her haha!

storybrooke Fri 20-May-16 10:41:01

My almost 4 year old is an absolute joy, been that way since about 2 when he started talking properly and he's just getting better the more he can articulate and the conversations we have melt me!

My two year old who can't communicate like her brother could is incredibly trying (I adore her beautiful little self!) but I can't wait for the words to start and to be able to reason with her. She had a meltdown because I sat down this morning, because she couldn't reach her coat, because I looked at her and then again when I kissed her head after she motioned me to. I'm praying it gets better for her haha!

imwithspud Fri 20-May-16 10:47:27

Oh god, yes. Dd1 is just 3.5 and has been a challenge since 2.5/3 really. But is definitely worse now!

I often wonder if it's me not knowing how to handle her, not being patient enough etc. I love her dearly but I also really struggle with her sometimes. It's the deliberate defiance and the way everything goes in one ear and out the other that gets to me the most. This is definitely the most difficult age so far.

milkyman Fri 20-May-16 11:50:38

planningwithkids.com/2009/11/17/characteristics-of-three-and-a-half-year-old-behavior/

TinklyLittleLaugh Fri 20-May-16 11:56:52

We call them "the whinging threes" in our house. Four is nice though.

milkyman Fri 20-May-16 11:57:09

askmoxie.org/blog/2014/1/15/35-is-a-lousy-age

milkyman Fri 20-May-16 11:57:43

Interesting articles linked above

imwithspud Fri 20-May-16 12:02:44

We call it the 'threenagers' here, because shes like a moody teenager at times! Especially when we have guests (people she knows, family etc) and she refuses to say hello or make eye contacthmm tend to just ignore her when she does that now because making an issue of it makes her do it more.

imwithspud Fri 20-May-16 12:09:53

Really interesting article, lots of things really resonated with me, Hard to remember at times that it's just a developmental stage and not a reflection on us as parents or the child. Will be showing it to dp later too.

corythatwas Fri 20-May-16 16:34:40

With both mine any age was better than the terrible threes. I guess it's what you mind most: I can cope with the argumentativeness and late nights of teenagers far better than the whininess of a clingy threenager.

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