I'm wondering if anyone loses their temper easily (I do!) and used a book to help them control it a bit? I lose my temper and shout at the kids, normally when I'm tired (youngest doesn't sleep well) or when we're rushing out somewhere, just wondered if anyone has any advice or book recommendations. Children are 18 months and 3.5. Thanks
My DP read the Chimp Paradox (by Steve Peters I think) which has really helped him with his anger issues. He was always hot-headed as a child and throughout adulthood, even at work.
I was unprepared to put up with this sort of behaviour and we split up for a short while. One of the provisos for getting back together was counselling, but actually this book helped far more than the counselling.
It discusses anxiety as much as anger, but they are rooted in the same issues and can be dealt with in the same way. It's a really easy read (gets a bit waffly later on, but all the useful stuff is very accessible and simply explained earlier in the book).
It's not specifically a parenting book, but it addresses how we feel when we start to get angry or worked up and how we can talk ourselves out of those feelings and reprogram other more useful ones, which works regardless of who you're dealing with. It has really changed the way we handle disagreements - him more than me, but I also found it interesting.