My DS 3 years has started pushing, knocking, shouting, growling, stamping on toes/hands and charging at other children. He does this to bigger older children and younger children. He's not scared of even the older children, he has also done this to adults just walking by.
DD arrived 3m ago and before that he was fine. He's so so at home, loves the baby most the time (has his moments). I feel so stressed taking him out to the park, soft play or seeing his cousins because of his behaviour. He goes to nursery 3 tikes a week and is an angel there, or so I am told!
When he does something to another child I tell him off, give him a warning not to do it again and say a consequence of what will happen if he does it again depending where we are eg we are going to leave the park. I probably give a few too many telling offs/ warnings before following through on consequence e.g actually leave the park. Just because I feel sorry for him and want him to be able to play in the park or soft play.
My husband and I are guilty of maybe giving him too much attention when he was younger in relation to playing with him and him not having much independent play. For example going around with him at soft play as he would want us to and him not going off exploring and playing by himself.
What can I do to nip this behaviour in the bud? I am worried an older chd or someone is going to hurt him. Other parents are giving me evil looks too. He's such a lovely boy really (honestly) and he looks confused and gets upset when I tell him off. I explain why eg he's hurt someone etc.
I see all other parents sitting chatting at the parks and soft play whilst their children are off playing. I'm constantly running around or on standby at the edge of the soft play with horrendous nerves feeling sick keep telling him off or watching he doesn't get hit back. What do I do? Should I sit back and let him learn the consequence of his actions? Eg someone push him back so he knows he can't get away doing it? I don't want him to get hurt though.
Please help, I feel so upset for him
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DS 3 - behaviour with other children - please help need advice. Have also posted in behaviour/dev hope that's ok as need as much advice as pos
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Newtobecomingamum · 05/04/2016 15:59
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