Ethnicity Dna test on newborn?

(15 Posts)
Emmaheathrow Sat 19-Mar-16 08:48:23

Hi
I have got myself in to a situation. I am currently 23 weeks pregnant and don't know who the father is, it's between two men. Neither of them knows I'm pregnant and I want it to stay that way at the moment as I don't want to cause any drama or worry before it can be solved.

I was seeing man A, sort of in a non serious relationship way. We where good for months and progressively things got worse and was then less serious between us. I saw him and we had sex and then two days after I had sex with someone else who I had previously had sex with and went on dates with years ago but this time it was just a one time thing.

I understand what I have done is wrong but I'm standing up to my mistakes. I have prepared myself for the fact I might be this babies only parent and I have no expectations of either of them jumping up at the idea of being a dad (as this would be both of theirs first time if they are her dad)

I was wondering if I am able to take an ethnicity Dna test on my daughter prior to contacting them. I don't want to contact both and have to Dna test both I would rather take the ethncity Dna test then know who the most probable one is then Dna test them to confirm with out involving the other one.

I am white and English 100% Full.

Man A's mum is mixed race (half Jamaican half white) and his dad is full Jamacian. So he is Jamacian, but biologically he's quarter white.

Man B is full Nigerian and both parents are originally from Nigeria.

Either way my daughter will be half black so impossible to say with skin colour. So is it logical to think one of these tests may lead me to my answer before contacting them?

SpeakNoWords Sat 19-Mar-16 11:44:22

I don't think DNA tests can tell you a person's ethnicity tbh - have you seen any tests advertised that have said they can do this?

Vixxfacee Sat 19-Mar-16 11:46:46

I think you can tell once she is born tbh

WinnietheW0rm Sat 19-Mar-16 11:54:01

I think this is unlikely to work, because although advances are being made all the time, what you have described is too close a mix.

I am however making assumptions about which Jamaican ethnicity Man A is. If Afro-Jamaicon, you will simply not be able to tell. If one of the others, then maybe.

You may have to grasp the nettle and just get regular paternity testing done.

MissWimpyDimple Sat 19-Mar-16 11:55:55

No tests for that particularly before birth. Plus as far as I know DNA wise A black Jamaican would have African ancestors (slavery bought them there in the first place).

I'm afraid it's DNA with samples when the baby is born.

juneau Sat 19-Mar-16 11:56:52

Well there are lots of services advertised online that can predict where your family come from, geographically speaking, simply from your DNA. My DH did one on himself to see where his DNA hails from (he's American and has a mixture of different nationalities in his bloodline), and the results were interesting (and bore out what he knew already). So in your case it would probably be a good place to start. Bear in mind though that Man A's ancestors will also come from somewhere in Africa, as all Afro-Caribbeans did at some point in history, so the test may not conclusively confirm the child's parenthood. If Man A's ancestors come from a distinctly different region of Africa though it could give you the answer you're looking for.

NanoTechMum Sat 19-Mar-16 11:59:22

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

IMO there is some logic in your idea. Why don't you ask the dna testing people if Nigeria and Jamaican ancestry differs much.

oneowlgirl Sat 19-Mar-16 12:03:00

No advice Emma but congratulations on your pregnancy. Hope things work out ok whoever the father turns out to be.

JanetOfTheApes Sat 19-Mar-16 12:13:20

Nope. Jamaican dudes parents might have Nigerian heritage. They'll almost certainly have some West African markers at least. Nigerian mans family might have moved there from another part of Africa. So what happens if you get genetic markers for, say, a mixture of West African?

Heirhelp Sat 19-Mar-16 20:18:41

Most black people in Jamicia are there because their ancestors were taken as slaves from Africa to the Caribbean so I would imagine that they have very similar genetics markers.

FireflyGirl Sat 19-Mar-16 21:31:31

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

You've had a lot of good answers on the thread, but I wanted to address another part of your post.

You sound as though you are ashamed of sleeping with two men. Please don't be. You are a grown woman. The only thing you (may) have done 'wrong' is not using protection while having sex, and looking after your own health.

I hope that you get some support and can enjoy your pregnancy and looking forward to meeting your beautiful daughter flowers

Dixiechick17 Sat 19-Mar-16 21:33:18

The dna testing won't pinpoint it to Nigeria, it will just say African, which could be either guy ancestory wise. My husband had one done due to being adopted and it's really not that black and white, his showed up a whole mix, he is of afrikaans descent , born in south africa, which would make you assume thay his highest percentage of dna would be dutch, as afrikaans is mainly dutch, his hughest percentage dna wise was irish. A lot of africa was colonised so there could be white genetics in both guys.

Dixiechick17 Sat 19-Mar-16 21:34:16

Excuse my mistypes

Trills Sat 19-Mar-16 21:38:00

I agree with FireflyGirl.

Having consensual sex with two adults, when you had not promised exclusivity to either of them, is nothing to be ashamed of. I can understand why you would not want to bring it up in public though.

Look after yourself, both physically and emotionally.

GingerCuddleMonsterThe2nd Sat 19-Mar-16 21:38:55

Congratulations flowers

The heritage DNA test won't tell you much, also when you say baby's skin colour will be the same, don't count on it! Haha When you begin to mix genes you'll be suprised what comes out. I'm 100% European white of Celtic stock, blue eyes brown hair. DP is mixed race afro-carribean and European English. Our DS looks like he comes from sweeden or a norodc country grin

Wait till baby is born if you don't want to cause a fuss now and then ask for a big standard paternity test.

Good luck

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