Hi guys,
I'm in need of some wisdom from other mums or other people in the same situation.
Myself (31 years old) and my partner (37) years old are considering having another baby, we keep going back and forth on the idea for several reasons and I just want to understand if anyone else has been through the same situation and what the outcome for them was or of anyone else is currently in the same situation as us to know we're not alone.
We currently have a beautiful little boy who turned 1 a few weeks ago, myself and my husband are completely besotted with him, he's been a very challenging baby so without going into our life story I will explain a little, very challenging emotional pregnancy, milk allergy, undiagnosed tongue tie for 9 months which caused major feeding issues and sleepless nights until 11 months old, my little one has only just started sleeping through and it's wonderful!
Lately myself and my husband have been pondering over another baby, my little boy has no cousins and we have no little ones in our family, which has lately made us feel we would like a life long friend for our little boy, not to obviously mention myself and my husband feeling like we would like to double our love for two.
Problem is, I'm so nervous about making a wrong decision, we had it so hard with feeding issues and sleepless nights and things have only just settled down and we're now enjoying life that I worry we won't ever find this peace again. I'm scared we will have another and go through it all again, as it was such a tough year for us all. We are always told stories of people with slight regret about having another baby and telling us how hard it is with two, not to mention we have only just recovered from sleepless nights. But I also worry if we leave it a year we will enjoy the sleep so much we won't go through it again. I'm so scared of not doing it and regretting it or doing it and just pushing through daily? Any advice from anyone?
I have a very supportive family, my mum helps out a lot and we are even going away for the weekend next week and I'm worried people won't be so quick to help when there is 2 of them! My mum said that won't change and it's not much harder looking after two but I know she's saying that because she's desperate for 2 or more grandchildren!! My husband works from home full time which has been a blessing with my son and getting help, and he's now going to nursery 3 days a week round the corner from us so I'd have 3 days on my own with the little one with a husband and mum to help.
Any advice would be great! Thank you
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Mbear01 · 09/02/2016 14:38
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