DD won't call me Mama/Mummy!

(28 Posts)
tomatapassata Fri 29-Jan-16 14:32:08

At 6 months old, "mama" was the first word to come put of DD's mouth. Now, at 18 months, she refers to Daddy as "dada" has names for Nanny, Uncles and Aunts, friends, the cat, but nothing for me. She doesn't refer to me as anything, even if she can say "mama."
I'm beginning to feel a bit, well disappointed that I don't have a name I guess and find it all so strange! I worry that she doesn't like me!
I'm eager to hear from any psychology, health care, health visitor type professionals as to why this is as I'm beginning to get a little worried?!

CottonFrock Fri 29-Jan-16 14:37:30

Because you're her primary carer, and at the moment her whole world, metaphorically speaking, so she doesn't need to 'refer' to you the way she does to other people who, unlike you, aren't always there?

My child said 'cow', 'car', 'bus', 'otter', 'monkey' 'dadad' and several other words I've deliberately forgotten before he said anything that could generously be interpreted as 'mama' or 'mummy', and now he's three, he calls me by my first name or, occasionally, 'Pooface'.

poocatcherchampion Fri 29-Jan-16 14:40:05

Op, Put the telly on and chill out. Your child knows who you are.

wait til they are older and refer to you as the fat hippo from the story

starry0ne Fri 29-Jan-16 14:45:50

My child had delayed speech and couldn't say my name till he was nearly 3.....

Honestly he has more than made up for it.. He has at school called his teachers mummy all day never mind me..Previous poster is right... your child gets all her needs met without labeling you.

boopdoop Fri 29-Jan-16 16:36:06

My DS (22 months) didn't ever say mama or mummy and I started to worry cause he was saying other words. We tried to make a point of getting him to say it, was even trying to work out if he could say other M words, was going to talk to my sil who is a speech therapist.. Then suddenly at 20 months he said it and pretty much hasn't stopped since!

Bunbaker Fri 29-Jan-16 16:38:33

"At 6 months old, "mama" was the first word to come put of DD's mouth"

Yeah, right.

tomatapassata Fri 29-Jan-16 16:52:10

What a pathetic human being you are Bunbaker. If you haven't got anything of value to say, get off my thread!

Pocket1 Fri 29-Jan-16 16:58:03

Tomata try not to worry - she knows who you are and loves you very much.

My DD (2.5) calls me nana and dada. No idea why. Most recently she's started calling me.... Mummy pig --maybe she's watching too much peppa pig--confused

Bunbaker Fri 29-Jan-16 17:06:38

grin

Helicoptermom Fri 29-Jan-16 18:19:32

Why do you think your comment is funny?> (Because I find it stupid)!

Helicoptermom Fri 29-Jan-16 18:21:31

That's meant for Bunbaker.

TheCatsMeow Fri 29-Jan-16 18:23:29

Bunbaker what was the point?

CoodleMoodle Fri 29-Jan-16 18:37:51

My DD said Mama at 9ish months. She said it a lot for a couple of days and then stopped. For nearly a year... In fact, she didn't say much at all for about a year. One day she said "Daddy" to DH, and then pointed to me and said "Mummy".

Now she's nearly two and all I hear is Mummy/Mum/Mama. Or "Mumm-aaayyy!!!" when she's really cross about something.

Rinceoir Fri 29-Jan-16 18:40:34

My DD had lots of words before she started calling me anything. She started about 2 months ago and all I hear now is Mammy Mammy Mammy! She's 21months.

pookamoo Fri 29-Jan-16 18:44:48

I think Bunbaker was making light of the fact that at 6 months old the sounds babies make are really just sounds rather than "words" with any real meaning. We call ourselves "mama" for precisely that reason - it's one of the first things they say. Usually "baba" is the very first, and for that reason, many cultures use that word for "father" or "grandmother".

Many people don't count "mama" "dada" and "baba" as real words at all.

The OP probably does realise that "mama" was not actually a "word" but her point is that the baby can say the word, she just doesn't.

cottonfrock is exactly right, and her name for you will come.

Then she will never stop saying it! grin

Enjoy your baby, OP.

Bunbaker Fri 29-Jan-16 19:00:51

Spot on pookamoo

tomatapassata Fri 29-Jan-16 23:00:11

Thanks for easing my worries! I completely get the me, being a constant in her life theory makes a lot of sense.
Pookamoo: of course mama mama was all part of a 6 month old's babble speak, but like you say, it shows she can say it and chooses not to.
Bunbaker: You still here? Nobody wants to listen to anything you have to say.

albertcampionscat Sat 30-Jan-16 17:52:04

Wow. Slight overreaction there OP.

craftyoldhen Sat 30-Jan-16 17:55:16

DS said dada and his sister's name at 12 months but didn't say my name till 22 months - and instead of mama or mummy he calls me "money"!!

Nishky Sat 30-Jan-16 18:02:00

I want to listen to Bunbaker-you can't order people off a thread!!

How does she attract your attention-surely she calls you something.

My dd's first name was 'bob' -aimed at Tim Henman-who was on telly, not in our house

joyalf Sun 31-Jan-16 22:42:28

My almost-two year old called me "dada" up until two weeks ago. Now he just calls me "daddy". Get funny looks when we are at playgroup! My excuse is that I am with him all day & we chat about how daddy is at work, when daddy will be home etc. To reiterate what others have said, I do think it is because I am with him 90% of the time & he doesn't need a word to call me, he knows I will just be there.

skankingpiglet Sun 31-Jan-16 22:53:17

I agree with Cottonfrock and tbh 'mummy' or whatever variation of it they choose is up there with 'no' for words you wish they hadn't learnt yet. By bedtime I'm usually at the point that if I hear that word whined at me called lovingly in my direction one more time, my head might implode. If it's any consolation, also like cotton, I was way down the list. DD was naming cuddle toys before me.

pookamoo Mon 01-Feb-16 18:34:04

Both of my DDs have intermittently used my given name instead of "mummy" as that's what everyone else calls me!

OP, what does your DD say to attract your attention?

HippyChickMama Mon 01-Feb-16 18:40:51

This will out me if anyone I know is on here but dd called me mama to start with but completely out of the blue it changed to 'Aboo' and then 'Aboo pig'! At around 2yo she reverted to 'Mummy' or occasionally Mummy pig . Don't worry about it, as pp have said, once she starts using mummy all the chuffing time you'll want to change your name

Tangoandcreditcards Mon 01-Feb-16 18:46:55

DS called me nothing or Daddy until he was 22 months.

I'm not even his primary carer - his Dad is.

He's just started calling me Mummy now (he also uses "Mummy" for dummy and .. gorilla... 😳)

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