Dd1 is 4.5. Poo has always been an issue. I thought we'd cracked it last summer but it's back again. She got very constipated before Christmas and started having accidents. I took her to the doctor and we've been making progress with lactulose and getting her to sit regularly but she's still deliberately withholding and I just don't know what to do. I have to beg her to try to poo as if she doesn't I know she'll have an accident at school but I can tell she's not trying and it ends with me angry and in tears and us being late every day. I don't think she's constipated any more, though I worry she will get it again if she stops the medication (another battleground).
She had two accidents at school last week and refused to be changed. School have said they can't wrestle her clothes off her so will have to call me in if she refuses to be changed. I'm supposed to go back to work soon, I feel like this is ruining our lives (dramatic, but all my energy goes on this, I want to be doing so much more with her).
It's the psychological aspects that worry me. She's normally so articulate but will not speak about this. She glazes over and blanks me out when I try to have a calm conversation with her (it's a bit scary) and if I get cross she's weirdly unbothered.
I have a meeting with her teacher and SENCO and a telephone appointment with a doctor this week. Is there anything I should be pushing for in terms of a referral? At the very least she seems to have issues around poo but I'm starting to worry that it's a symptom of something else. She's wilful and high spirited and gets hyper and unmanageable if tired but is confident, cheerful and very articulate as long as she gets 12+ hours of sleep, some exercise and some each day. Her diet is ok I think. She likes vegetables and loves fruit. she doesn't drink enough. This is another battleground.
Any tips?
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At wit's end with 4yo's poo withholding.
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longestlurkerever · 25/01/2016 10:06
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