My Little one not invited to my best friends little ones party

(9 Posts)
Becky11287 Thu 21-Jan-16 09:21:01

hello .. Sorry I'm quite annoyed my 2 children hasn't been invited to my friends little ones party .. It's only a little tea party but me and my friend have done everything together lately even booked a holiday with both our families for later on in the year .. Well it's her younger ones party and I have a little one the same age she said the older one can invite someone he's picked another child I'm just annoyed really because surely we should of had an invite ??
Thing is I no she was annoyed because her little one didn't get invited to a party ?? I just had to have a rant thank

PurpleDaisies Thu 21-Jan-16 09:24:31

Are you invited to the party but not your children? I'm a bit confused.

To be honest if it's a little party and the children themselves were allowed to choose who was on the invite list I think you're being a bit unreasonable towards your friend.

shouldwestayorshouldwego Thu 21-Jan-16 09:29:18

How old are the dc? Was she annoyed with you or someone else at the party. Is the older one 'helping' ? I let my older dc have a friend to help but only if I know that they will occupy the older dc and not try to win everything. Maybe the dc aren't as friendly as you parents are. One of my best friends has one dc who gets on fabulously with one of mine but the other dcs actively dislike each other.

Arfarfanarf Thu 21-Jan-16 09:31:28

I think you need to seperate your friendship from your childrens.

The adults being friends doesnt mean the kids are.

I really dont think its a rejection of you or your children. Its just that the child is a seperate person from the adult.

Children can often be almost forced into friendships when the adults are close and i think thats wrong.

I am sorry you feel hurt on your childrens behalf. Maybe see who their friends are and get them to spend time with them?

chillycurtains Thu 21-Jan-16 09:34:24

You need to clarify how old are your DC, whether you are invited?

Your OP read to me that your youngest is the same age as the birthday child but only your oldest child plus one friend is invited.
If this is the case the easiest thing would have been to use the extra invite for your other child.

However I think you may have misinterpreted your friend. She may have not been clear that your youngest was invited automatically and she was just adding an extra for your oldest. Why not just ask?

Becky11287 Thu 21-Jan-16 09:35:43

Yeah think ur all right I need to separate the friendship from the kids as I suppose they have been
Forced upon .. I no I'm being unreasonable she does feel guilty about it I just had to let it out my older one is 5

Becky11287 Thu 21-Jan-16 10:34:00

And yes my oldest and youngest child are the Same age as her 2 so we have always taken them out together .. And neither has been invited as her oldest chose another child .. Think it's me being petty

shouldwestayorshouldwego Thu 21-Jan-16 12:35:42

It gets easier when they are all at school. We now go out for coffee child free without the pressure of having to pretend that the dc get along! I will also have her dd over as she is friendly with one of mine. We would both drop everything to help if needed though.

Becky11287 Thu 21-Jan-16 12:49:38

Yeah we take little ones to playgroup when the older ones are in school and they are in in the same class together probably should have mentioned that .. Suppose this type of thing is going to happen quite a lot over the coming years.

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