I’d really like some advice and perspective. We’re having ongoing problems with our 13 year-old daughter – she can be sweet and lovely 70 per cent of the time but is also horribly volatile and the smallest thing can set her off, she screams, slams doors and is verbally abusive, hits her sister, is spiteful, throws things, is irrational and lies.
It sounds like normal teenage behaviour when written down, but somehow when you see it in real life, it's much worse.
She also has a skewed memory of the events afterwards and can never see that she is at fault for anything. For instance, the other day, I dropped her off at school. She wanted me to take her right to school but I was late so dropped her on the main road. We pulled up at traffic lights with a queue of traffic in front and behind us, the lights were green but traffic was stationary. She refused to get out of the car (on the left straight onto the pavement), I insisted, she screamed at me, I told her to get out (by this time the lights had gone red and children were crossing in front of us). She screamed at me that she hated me, I was the worst mother in the world and then slammed the door so hard I thought the window would smash. Later I talked to her about it, she was adamant that it was all my fault because I’d told her to get out in the middle of the road, we were nowhere near the crossing etc etc. She was rude, sullen, uncommunicative, then threw something at me when I was talking to her.
This is just the tip of the iceberg, there’s been many more rows far more horrific. It’s never her fault, always mine and my husbands, or her sisters’.
Is this normal? I was never like this, nor was my husband, we are at a loss – the rows are poisoning family life and we dread time spent together.
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Advice please - Is this normal teenage behaviour?
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swimmum21 · 11/12/2015 09:32
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