How to teach 1 year old "no"

(8 Posts)
MrsBojingles Sat 14-Nov-15 19:13:55

I'm having a real hard time teaching DD (14 months) that some things aren't ok (poking the buttons on dishwasher, touching the oven, opening the bin etc). I've baby-proofed as much as possible but some things are just not so-able.

I tell her "no" in a firm and calm way, and sometimes she listens, other times she ignores and I have to remove her (often to much protest) and try to distract her. Sometimes the distraction works, other times she charges straight back.

What else can I try? She's obviously too young for discipline like naughty step or removing toys.

katand2kits Sat 14-Nov-15 20:22:18

Nothing. She is too young to have any control over her impulsive behaviour. Just repeat and redirect 100000 times a day. If you have to remove her, show empathy but exp!ain it isn't safe. And more baby proofing if possible. I have gated off the kitchen so my one year old can't get in there when the oven is on. Babies are naturally curious and need to explore to learn.

PiccalilliSandwiches Sat 14-Nov-15 21:16:13

Completely agree with kat and just to add that the more exasperated you become, the more she'll see it as a game. Remove and distract.

And keep '"no" for emergencies as much as possible. If you use it too much it loses any value.

It's a trying stage op, but to her there's no difference between her toys and the dishwasher buttons.

Salmiak Sat 14-Nov-15 21:24:41

Definitely too young for naughty step or taking away toys.

I always try to explain why I've said no, so no don't climb up there it would be auw if you fell down, or no don't touch my tea it's hot (then gently guide their hand to touch the side of the cup) and say see hot, don't touch the bin it's dirty - ew, yuk, dirty see dirty, etc

I also find that saying their name, followed by an ooooh sound that gradually gets louder is a good alternative to no.

HumphreyCobblers Sat 14-Nov-15 21:30:07

you can only do what you are already doing tbh

some children learn it more quickly than others, two of mine saw no as a challenge and one was pretty good at stopping when told. The quality of my 'no' was the same each time!

MrsLeighHalfpenny Sat 14-Nov-15 21:33:55

What kat said.

Trinpy Sat 14-Nov-15 21:38:54

I did/do the same with my 19 month old as Salmiak suggests and he quickly learnt to say 'hot' and do an exaggerated pulling-his-hand-away motion. Similarly, if I say 'don't touch, dirty' he will usually repeat 'dirty' (sometimes adding on 'yuk!') and steer well clear!

Also, although it feels endless at the time, it is just a phase and they grow out of it relatively quickly. At 14 months old ds used to love posting valuables into the kitchen bin, playing with the phone, trying to knock the tv over, and readjusting the temperature on the oven - he hasn't done any of these things for ages now. Tgey soon lose interest.

boopdoop Sat 14-Nov-15 22:02:33

Echo what everyone else said. I also kept "no" for serious stuff, and try to use other words for general things. Then he knows that no is serious. He got there eventually! (20 months now).

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