I'm starting to feel broody and I'm pretty sure it's hormonal. Baby not even weaned yet!!
In my head I'd imagined we'd quite possibly have 3, but part of me wonders how much harder it would be - thinking cars, holidays, money, number of hands, number of kids to get up and out for school when the time comes, and the juggling of out of school activities.
Deep down, I think I know it would be sensible to stick with our lovely two, as I'll be in my 40s, DH bit older still, I am ambitious at work, parents not that local to help out. As well as the reasons I put above.
Please could those with two tell me if they're happy they stuck with it, and if you went for 3, how much harder work is it?
And is middle child syndrome a real thing folk have noticed?
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Please tell me all the benefits of two versus three kids
Lilipot15 · 09/10/2015 13:55
For me it was lack of space, lack of money, lack of family near, lack of time (40s), lack of willingness (dh), and I've misplaced my sanity lately. But if I won the lottery I may reconsider 
Cheap please join in!
Fair - you've reminded me to check my lottery ticket 
I'm 40 and I work FT because I love it. I'm happy with 2. So happy that I have sold all the baby stuff as soon as DD2 out grown.
It probably doens't help you because I've always imagined 2 children.
3 is definitely much harder than 2. I don't regret having my 3rd but honestly, it is much harder.
I do sometimes feel I'm spreading myself too thinly (I'm having to work ft too, can't afford not to), I feel all three of my kids could benefit with me spending a bit more time with me. I don't think they are unhappy but I do think there are times when they could do with me spending some more one-on-one time with me, or when I should take my time to teach them somethin ir help them with something and I just don't have the time. So I often feel like a bit of a rubbish mum and there is always a slight feeling of guilt hanging over me.
Also: the expense. We can't really afford to go on a proper holidaybfor example as there are 5 of us, meaning we would need two hotel rooms, etc. Everything is totally geared towards having two children and so much more expensive because we have one more than "standard" families.
That's the main "negatives" I can think of. There is many positives too of course!
If it helps: I think many women go through a broody stage when their DCs are a few months old, I think it must be hormonal a lot of the times. I felt really really broody when each one if my children was about 2-4 months old and Iknow many people who feel the same.And even now, years later I sometimes feel I would do anything to have another newborn and look at pregnant women in envy! It usually only lasts a few minutes, then I give myself a little mental shake and remind myself of what it would REALLY be like and I almost laugh at the insanity of such thoughts. Hormones, they can screw with your mind
And poocatcher, congratulations on your imminent number 3. There are plenty of threads of people saying how happy they are with three, which is why I wrote a thread title with a slant towards those who would tell me the pros of two
I saw this on DB's FB feed a while ago by a middle child. It did make me wonder what had gone on in that household that day. 
It's not really the done thing to have a third and then admit to regretting it. You have to say you are thrilled really.
Although my Grandad used to tell his 3 children 'If I had never had kids I could have had a Rolls Royce' He could have had one too in actual fact he just chose not to but what a thing to say.
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