Potty training help please.....

[thenewaveragebear1983]

Hi, I'll try to be brief..... Today has been day one attempting to potty train My 3.3 year old DS, and it's been nothing short of disaster. Before I get flamed for leaving it this late, I have tried before and have decided to wait on several occasions. I have baby being born in 5 weeks (cs booked so that's definite) and I really want to try one more time before baby comes because I feel that I will have to wait once baby arrives for things to settle. Today he has weed 5 times, every time in his pants, despite sitting on the potty every 45 mins to an hour, plus extra after meals, before bath etc. I really don't know if he even knows that he's weeing until he's wet, and 3 times he stood up off the potty and promptly weed within moments.
He's a very bright and stubborn little boy and extremely wilful if he wants something. One of the reasons we have delayed starting is because so many people were saying to him about being a big boy and using the potty and wearing pants that he point blank refused to have anything to do with either. I consider it a small victory that he even sat on the potty today, and that he wore pants, but I know that many would consider it a massive failure that I'm in this position. He has an excellent vocabulary but very rarely discussed potty related things, and almost never has said that he is doing a wee or needs a wee. Even today after he wet himself, he didn't say that he was wet. So, my questions to you: am I wasting my time? Should I delay for a few more weeks (probably 2 months considering new arrival) or should I persevere? If I perseve, how can I help him to wee on the potty? I think a few positive reinforcements will work wonders but he needs to actually do it first, and so far thats not happened. Please help!

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

Ok, you need to take him upstairs when hes wet, dont say anything, put him in the bathroom to wait for dry clothes, take your time, then take your time washing changing, again say nothing. This way you remove him, its boring and he cant play. If he misses a game or tv show so much the better. Dont tell him off, dont discuss it silence works.

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

If its nice let him water the flowers as mommy cant

[ToTheStarsMorag]

Your day sounds totally normal for a 1st day of potty training TBH. Don't mention the word 'flaming' again, you don't deserve one!

At the start it does completely seem like they have no idea at all that they are going right where they are sitting/standing/playing, I remember being totally incensed when DC1 did it.

I just kept it positive, lots of praise for the good stuff, no big deal AT ALL if they wet themselves just a quick change into another pair of joggers and pants then back to play. No big deals made of anything except a wee or a poo. Then there was 1 sweet and a huge round of applause!

I was very firm that it was happening though, in a nice encouraging, positive way. I will admit that every time you reach a point where you feel like giving up, but you just have to carry on, then a few days later you are so glad that you did.

It helped to have a stack of elasticated waist trousers and many many pants (£2.50 for a huge pack in tesco). Also those big bed liner pad things on various bits of furniture that you are worried about.

I think the hardest part would be all the bending down while you are pg though! I'm sure I have potty trained while pg.

[poocatcherchampion]

I'd lose the pants. They can feel like a nappy - it is easier if they are nudey to start. I'd carry on.

[thenewaveragebear1983]

Thanks everyone, I am feeling a lot more positive about it today. Onwards!

[Buttercup27]

Definitely lose the pants and trousers today so it doesn't feel like he's wearing a nappy.