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Can I have PND after 10 months? Does this sound like PND?

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Izzy82 · 29/06/2015 20:48

Ok, so in sorry of this has been asked before but recently I have begun to think I may be suffering from it.
I have absolutely no sex drive (sex twice in 10 months), I am close to years most of the time, I have put on about 2 stone since giving birth (I mean, seriously, who puts on weight AFTER giving birth!)
And then there's the mood swings. I'm talking getting so angry with husband and mum (who is currently visiting). I'm often fine and then DH or DM will say or do something perfectly reasonable and I will just flip out. I threw a bag of potatoes across the room last week because I umDH pointed out that I used the wrong potatoes for a cottage pie (baking instead if mashing). Today I threw DS toy dog out the window into back garden because I couldn't switch it off and it wouldn't stop chirping
Dies this sounds like PND or something else?

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Izzy82 · 29/06/2015 20:51

Ps, I never get angry with my son!

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bippityboppitypoo · 29/06/2015 20:57

I let my PND fester for months and months until I finally went to see a doctor. So to me it does sound similar. I nearly lost my marriage over it but once I got it out, said it, wrote it down I started to fell better.

Seek help in any way which you feel most comfortable. If you have a weigh in session for DS maybe mention it to a midwife who could point you in a good direction too

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BeakyMinder · 29/06/2015 20:58

You don't sound happy Izzy. Why not try to see the GP or health visitor? Depression can strike any time before or after birth, it's not unusual at all. What do you think?

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Haggisfish · 29/06/2015 21:00

A few questions-are you still breastfeeding and if not, did you stop recently, and have you had a thyroid test?

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GlitterTwinkleToes · 29/06/2015 21:02

When did you start realising you were feeling like this? Just a few weeks or has it been festering for months? What contraception are you using and how long have you been using it - could be a side effect? What triggers you to be so angry?

I have, and still recovering from PND and anxiety. What you've said has been a small part of what I've felt. Do you ever get a break from it all?

You need to address your anger issues, and fast! Please speak to your hv and GP. Does your DH and DM know the true extent of how you're feeling?

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Izzy82 · 29/06/2015 21:12

Not been breastfeeding since 6 weeks, abstinence is my only form of contraception and I have been feeling like this for a few months.
I haven't made a doctors appointment because I just assumed it's because I'm not very good at this parenting malarkey and no I never get a break. I live miles away from my family, though my husband is good when he is here.
I'll book an appointment- wanted to check on here first as I don't want to waste the doctor's time

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bippityboppitypoo · 29/06/2015 21:23

PND is not biased to your parenting abilities, it can and does happen to anyone.

You won't be wasting your doctors time, I found bullet pointing the main things I was worried about down and taking that to the appointment with me so I didn't forgot

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Haggisfish · 29/06/2015 23:04

Yes I would definitely go to gp. I only asked about bf because there can sometimes be a link between stopping and a hormonal 'crash'. Def ask for a thyroid test as well-your thyroid can oscillate between under and overactive for a couple of years post partum and it can have similar symptoms.

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Haggisfish · 02/07/2015 22:42

How are you op?

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Roseybee10 · 03/07/2015 02:10

It does sound like it could potentially be an under active thyroid. Definitely see your GP and try to figure out what's going on. Sounds like s horrible time for you and dp. Please don't blame yourself, it sounds like there is an underlying medical cause.

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hartmel · 03/07/2015 03:16

Yes it does sound like PND.
I hope your GP listens to you and will give you something to help you.
I mentioned it many times to my GP, I was already at that point where I told my husband to raise the kids on his own as I couldn't take it anymore.. But he didn't want to hear about it and took parental leave to help me out. Smile
Anyways when I mentioned it to my GP all she said "it is normal and will go away on its own" my daughter is 8 month already and I still have it.
Trying to locate a new GP who will listen and also check my thyroid because after giving birth to my daughter I went from size 9/10 to 12/14 Hmm which makes me even more depressed Grin

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Izzy82 · 05/07/2015 21:25

Thank you everyone for your messages. Haggisfish- I'm 33.
I did go to the GP on Thursday. I cried! She made me do a questionnaire online, which came out as Mild Depression.
She asked me to phone 'talking therapies' this week and see how it goes. I have to go back in a fortnight if it's not helping and she will explore other options.
She was very understanding actually and I'm very glad I went
Xxx

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Haggisfish · 05/07/2015 22:00

Do try and push for a blood test including thyroid function if you can. Glad you are glad you went-it helps to start feeling in control.

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