Bedwetting

[VacantExpression]

My DS turns seven over the summer. He has been invited to a sleepover with friends he would really like to go- we've said no before because of this but its becoming an issue.

He is wet probably five out of seven nights.

We have tried most things (lifting, wearing nighttime pullups, not wearing nighttime pullups..).

He drinks plenty in the day, diluted juice with his breakfast and only water other than that. No drinks for a couple of hours at least before bed and wee last thing at night.

In case its relevant my DD (5) is also wet every night. They are both keen to be dry as am I for them to be it is not laziness and neither of them have any health issues. Both were daytime toilet trained at average ages and very good since.

Help Please, where do I go from here??!!

[Eva50]

Ds3 was dry at night days before his 7th birthday. He hasn't had an accident since. Ds used pull-ups until he was dry. Would your ds do that?

[Jasonandyawegunorts]

7 is the age doctors start taking it seriously, before then it's considered "normal" so going to your GP would be the next step.

[VacantExpression]

Thanks Eva yes we use pullups now, sorry didn't actually say that in the OP. We are doing that fine at home its the staying away from home that's the issue. I daresay he isn't the only one in his class not yet dry too its not an easy thing to bring up I don't want him to be embarrassed. Thanks both.

[Eva50]

I'm sure he won't be the only one in the class. If he is staying over with someone I would tell the parents and get him to practice getting changed in the bathroom. He could have a bag with some wipes and the host parents could discreetly take it away in the morning. I'm sure other children would not notice pyjama pants especially if you got a loose onesie for him to sleep in.

Ds3 is now almost 9 and has still not stayed away overnight anywhere because he doesn't want to. That said, before he was dry he told all the boys at Beavers that he wasn't going to the camp because he wore nappy pants and no one seems to have mentioned it again so perhaps they all do!

I always felt it was important not to make a fuss about it as my DN also had this problem and under pressure from her PIL and against her better judgement my DSIS got him referred to paeds They tried sprays, tablets, alarms etc all of which made no difference. DN began to feel that he had a huge problem and was quite stressed about it. He was eventually dry at 11. DSIS felt the whole thing was made worse by all the intervention. Of course we will never know but I decided to sit tight until ds was really bothered by it and he was dry before I had to worry.

[Piratejones]

I'd agree with Eva here, talk to the person / people in charge and make sure you DS knows what to do with the wet pullup.

[mygrandchildrenrock]

I remember my oldest DB wetting the bed when he was about 11 and my wicked SM hanging his wet sheets out of the bedroom window so all neighbours could see what a 'dirty little b*ger he was.
My youngest DS wet the bed fairly regularly until he was 10, not wet once since then and he is nearly 18.
He wore pull ups, so we weren't dealing with wet sheets in the middle of the night. I pointed out to him, that as they made night time pullups for big boys, lots of big boys must still wet the bed!

[deepdarkwood]

Ds is 11, and still wet regularly - despite various interventions/clinics etc.

at 7, I'd go to the GP - you may be able to get desmopressin prescribed, which surpresses wee production, so is great for sleepovers/cub camps/school residential street etc - there are also lots of alarms you can use which help some kids by waking them as they start to wet. We had a local eurenisis clinic who were great & had lots of practical tips. The Eric website is good too.

Ds has always been mercifully unbothered, and has carried on with everything regardless. His good mates all know he's still wet sometimes and are utterly uninterested, although he's careful in larger groups now. Weve never not done stuff - and other parents/adults running groups have always been helpful, supportive and discrete.

[deepdarkwood]

1in 10 still wet at 10 years old, btw so there will be lors in his class still wet!