I'll try not to make this long winded and any suggestions are welcome. My parents, me, my husband and 2 children emigrated to Germany last year, nearly a year ago now. My in-laws are divorced and both have new partners. When we announced our plans we had the expected tears and upset, but also reassurances that they would come visit and we would go over to England.
Unfortunately money is tight and we aren't really established financially yet, and only managed to get over to the UK for a surprise Christmas. My mother in law has been over to us 3 times which I'm so grateful for. My father in law and his wife have been saying since before we moved they are coming over, first it was October, then before Christmas, then in the new year. Since then it has been waiting on a date for an operation. The 'plan' all along has been to come for a long weekend. Since the reason has been waiting on the Op, almost in the same sentence they tell us of plans to take their other grandchildren (who they see a lot) on a long weekend. That trip is going ahead from the latest update.
My husband is extremely upset, he feels sidelined, forgotten, lied to, that his children don't mean as much. He also suffers with Bipolar disorder and this amount of emotional stress acts as a massive trigger. He hates confrontation. His step mum messaged us at the weekend to ask if my parents, are going over, or anyone coming to us, as she bought birthday presents for our daughter (birthday was in April) that can't be posted. It only really went to confirm they have no plans to come over.
Also as a side note if we do to the UK, our only option is to stay with my father in law, and by proxy they get to see more of us then anyone else, which all considered feels a little unfair.
What on earth can I do? I don't want to start an argument by any means, as before we left we were all quite close. The children have no noticed that Nanny and Grandad haven't followed through.
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sugarplumfairy28 · 08/06/2015 18:08
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